stop talking to some one?

[fazeela]

hello
i have a habit of talking to myselves for a while,i am going t get married i am afraid about my future,i had a dream of coming a tennis star in life,but my parents wanted me to be a software engineer and now i am a software engineer,my father dont behave to me ,my sister and my mother in a good way,he always wanted to have a son(so always make some unwanted quarrels with me and my sister,also he beat my mother,my mother releases her anger on him by shouting on us,so iam completely doubted on whom should i love(father or mother)?these are things that happened in my life that have made me to talk to my self,now i would like to get rid of this mess,can any one help????

[herbalprincess]

When I was a child I went through a lot of abuse. I would often find myself daydreaming in my moments of peace in order to escape what was happening around me. Sometimes I would get so lost in these daydreams I would have entire conversations OUT LOUD with the people I was dreaming about. When I was about 17 I realized I was sometimes talking to myself and not even aware I was doing it. This would cause me to talk out loud in class, on the bus, grocery shopping.... It wasn't good. First, of course, I would suggest taking to a counselor or a therapist. Ruggy is right, if you are in a small town I would go to the next bigger city. However, what I did before I could help was to just be aware. If I caught myself daydreaming and talking to myself I would stop mid sentence and find something to do that didn't allow me to daydream. This helped a lot. To replace daydreaming (so that I could still escape my living situation) I picked up various hobbies I found I could lose myself in. Web Design, Music, making lists (sometimes I make a list of all the ideas I want to say out loud), and art have all helped me with this problem. Maybe try giving your brain something creative to do (which is like daydreaming) but is more socially acceptable.

[ruggy03]

Is the man your gonna marry aware of this?I think its time u cut ties with the family.And if this man truly loves you he would notice the abuse and want you out of there.But you must see a doctor,not one in ur little home town but from a different area....good luck

[Bubulous]

Not even a little bit.  You should go see a dr.  That one is out of my range and I think you need a professional which I am not.

[fazeela]

no idea???? any one please help me

[fazeela]

what is the problem with me???and how can stop this stupid behaviour?I dont like to sit with my family members when every one are together,i just go away from them and sit in my room and do this talking?

[fazeela]

talking to thoose whom i would i like to be

[Bubulous]

So are you talking to yourself or to an imaginary projection of the person you want to be?

[fazeela]

celebrities and who are famous

[Bubulous]

What do you mean "big personalities? Can you explain that?

[fazeela]

i always wanted to convice my father that i can change his life as a son can do?i used to cry at certain moments

[fazeela]

i usally imagine big personalities in front of me,am i nuts?

[Bubulous]

What kinds of things do you talk about?