Hi, first question is , is he seeing a psychiatrist ? if not he should be by the sounds of things' and comming off a drug like xanax cold turkey is very dangerous i know from personal experience , and also if he doe's have Bi polar , anti depressants alone can send you manic and make the depression worse , he may need something like a mood stabilizer or anti psychotic to level him out ,
I'm no doctor but it really sounds like your boyfriend really needs to be seeing a psychiatrist ( a good one ) in my opinion it seems like he's not being treated properly with the right medications , but keep in mind every individual is different so it is trial and errror til they get the right combination of meds for him.
I agree with stormbear. I was diagnosed with bp2 last week. I'm not as manic as your boyfriend but I feel your pain and his. He needs to see a really good psychiatrist right away. He may need to be hospitalized until they can get this under control. I'm no expert and I'm not where I need to be as far as meds go. But I'm researching and it seems like it's an experiment to get the right meds that work for each person. Try to get him to see options that he can't visualize right now. Try to encourage him to find that place within himself that can be objective and look from outside himself toward his behaviors. Remind him of how happy you used to be and encourage him he can find that again with the right help, whether he's meant to be with you or not. Im sure you want him to be happy and healthy no matter what so that's what he should be guided toward. Maybe contact your doctor and get a referral to a pyschiatrist who specializes in BP. I wish you luck.
It sounds to me like this all started when he stopped taking the xanax. From experience I know when you stop taking xanax it is mentally and physically dangerous. The withdrawals can last up to a month. He needs to be seen again and you probably need to go with him to make sure the dr.'s get all of the information. I don't understand why they didn't do a slow taper. It is also hard on your body to go back and forth on those type of meds. I maybe wrong, I'm only speaking from experience, a dr. will know best.
Your story is exactly the same like mine.the only difference is that i was married to my warm , loving caring husband for 2.5 years. He was a good man but very depressed and 3 mths ago, his psy orescribed Cymbalta and after just 2 weeks , I started noticing his behaviour started changing. He also has all the manic phase Bipolar symptoms and when I secretly went to see his Dr, Dr said he was Ok and went back to his normal self.
How can his normal self of saying that I was his heart and the love of my heart and would die for me rather than losing me could changed into someone who s completely opposite than himself.
I know I have lost him and I know that it will take miracle to have him back, so what ive done is to move on, cry everyday but will eventually be OK. It is a very tough road for me but I know its not their fault either.
God bless us all.