I have been posting questions about my family on these forums and getting great responses. I know I have alot to be angry about from my childhood, but I am 32 and my anger seems to be getting worse. I'm not sure if my super supportive partner is just that, or if he is bringing more of it out of me. My frusteration level with him is unbearable. But maybe he is the best thing for me because he is forcing me to face my anger once and for all. In the meantime though, I can't live with my behavior and the awful things I say to him.
I am so unsure of my true feelings, I don't know what to think. Sometimes I hate him. Other times I thank god he loves me. He listens and is very understanding, but sometimes I think he is manipulative and passive aggressive. I want things in life (children, security, etc) and he keeps telling me I'll get those things once I stop being so angry. But as the years pass and my biological window is closing, I am getting more angry that my current partner isn't willing to give me the things I want because I can't stop being angry. I would love more therapy, but I don't have money. I feel like I'm getting nowhere and I have begun to resent him so much. When I look at him all I see is the person who is witholding from me what I want most. I want to break up and go explore my options. We just bought a house together though so we've got to work some things out.
We just go in circles. I'm so sick of it and I verbally abuse him because I lose it sometimes.
He is a really great person but I can't give up my whole life for this person. I keep pushing what I want most farther away according to him. I don't want to be stuck in a cycle where I can't get it right. Meanwhile, he barely gets by and refuses to take any initiative in creating a financial future for us. He's not interested and uses my anger as his excuse. I've taken the blame for everyone my whole life and tried to live up to everyone's standards. It never works, meanwhile, years are going by and I'm living in misery because I've given up everything I enjoy to be with this person in hopes of a family.
I know I have anger and I deeply regret the mental strife I cause him, but I honestly don't think I would be this angry if I was either alone or with someone else. He thinks I am just looking for a sperm donor.
I'm so out of touch with my own feelings. I don't know what to do.
Any suggestions?