How to avoid trigger negative symptomes due to others?

[MR_WHY]

I wrote this question before: In works, how can I deal with others who trigger my negative symptoms? How Can I avoid them or avoid there influence and effects? Any useful and helpful advices and ideas?!

My comment: The challenge here not to avoid other people. The real challenge is to avoid their influences or affects or control their triggers without hurt us. How could be? Especially, until condition be stable.

[MR_WHY]

Yes, I agree with u about irritability and sensitivity.

I try my best to do what I can but I don't feel it enough.

[MR_WHY]

I don't understand what u mean.

[persephonedemeter]

Then, why did you bother askng the question?

[MR_WHY]

It difficult to have non-meds therapy where I live.

[persephonedemeter]

You know, when you are not feeling well, people are going to affect you. Most people who get sick, tend to be sensitive to others, because they feel so bad. Any little thing can be irritating. There are only a rare few that take things very graciously. I have no idea if they hurt or not, but they also tend to be very forgiving and incredibly understand that people aren't perfect, and that a lot of people just don't like to be around sick people, or even know, really, that you aren't well. At the job, basically, they just want to finish the job and go home, most of the time, and try to enjoy what they are doing and have a good day. If they actually enjoy doing the work and like the place they work in, they just want that.

I don't know if you had a good relationship with your co-workers, or if it is a daily grind for you to be there, and all it is, is a way to generate income. I don't even know if you say hello to each other. When someone bothers me at work, I just don't bother with them. That is the first step, just like what Crystal and Bubulous said. It doesn't sound like you and these co-workers have a relationship with each other of any kind, so it isn't going to be a big deal to just keep interaction to a need to do basis and just be polite to them, even if they aren't. You don't have to be at the same level, and it always looks better when you be courteous.

It isn't going to be easy to build up a thicker skin, but just say to yourself in your head when something bothers you that they said is that it is really nothing, that you are not married to them and it doesn't sound like they are friends of yours, so just let it stay what it is, nothing that is going to affect you much. The other thing is that you said you have an online therapist that I am assuming you are paying to listen to you. Tell him about it.

Unfortunatley, there is really no quick fix to dealing with emotional stuff and mental illness. You are going to have to practice it, like meditation, every day. Meditation is a good thing to learn because it tells you how to notice things and then let it go by, which is exactly what you need. If your mind is busy all the time, it can actually help slow it down a bit or just give you a moment when you have a little relief from a busy mind. It is worth it not to give up on doing something that is incredibly hard to do. Just think of it like you need to put clothes on to go outside.Even if it is difficult to put clothes on, it is still a requirement for you to do so unless you live in a nudist colony or where everyone is naked.

People in crowded societtes learn how to give themselves mental space when physical space is not possible. It happens in crowded buses, trains and crowded streets. People with mental illness do it all the time, whether they want to or not.

I think what the problem is here is irritability. When you are irritated, a lot of things seem negative and incredibly irritating. I imagine that is why you are prescribed ativan. One of the things you can do is just inject a little positiveness every day, and maybe after someone irritates you. It isn't much but it is a start. Just say something like, "I can go home after this, and they aren't coming with me." It doesn't have to be a rainbow and sunshine statement all the time. Just something that sounds good to you, and just to poke a little hole for just the tiniest bit of light to get through that dark cloud.

You showed compassion to Crystal when she was feeling down, by just saying you were sorry she was going through a hard time. Give a little compassion like that to yourself. Even just a second of it. When you do that enough times, and do more things to help you get better and be your own best friend, then it gives you hope and it actually does help you get better. You also learn how to make yourself stronger that way. It isn't just the medications that are going to pull you through. It is also what you do for yourself too, and that is a really big part of it. I found out that just relying on meds isn't going to give the lasting recovery. Life has a way of throwing things at you that are really hard to deal with, so it will help you a lot from falling down all the time, if you try and keep trying to build support in yourself, because no one can do it for you. You can have a lot of people taking care of you, watching out for you, and serve you, but it wouldn't matter one bit if you don't even try. You still have to chew the food and swallow it after it gets spooned into your mouth. Otherwise, it is not only frustrating for you, but it is also incredibly frustrating for the people around you who don't have much control over you like you have.

That's what decades of mental illness and taking care of others taught me, and heck yes, I know it is a very hard lesson to learn.

[Bubulous]

Crystal is totally right.  You did get some responses before and since this question has come up again I will take a different approach.
For one- asking how to avoid these influences is like trying to avoid cold if you are out in the snow.  So how do you avoid the cold?  You put on a jacket.
That is what we must do, in a sense, to deal with those who are able to affect us with their negativity.  We can either learn to turn what they say into something positive (the hard way) or we can make our skin thicker so that what they say and do does not affect us (the easy way).  This can be accomplished through faith or exercise.

[MR_WHY]

It's difficult to avoid people who work with.

[Crystal413]

I personally AVOID people like that for my own sanity.

In reference to your "My comment". If you can accomplish that then I commend you. I can try to ignore people and and try to block out their influences but internally it effects me. If you can go to regular therapy, maybe they could help with this issue or find a book that includes this subject. Have you ever tried Cognitive Behavorial Therapy or Dialectical Behavor Therapy?