My husband's been bi-polar all our 18 yrs together. (It's been hell) People see how sweet, helpful, etc. he can be and actually criticize me for being "too hard" on him. (His psych. thinks I do a great job) One even told him he was "henpecked". If I tell him no, don't go banging on someone's door at 6 am, they tell him its perfectly okay. If I say no, don't eat the whole lb. of cookies, they give him junk food behind my back. If I tell them he's bi-polar, I get replies like "Oh, nobody's perfect" or "Oh, that's just another name for depression". Any suggestions, please? Thanks.