Relationship?

[BD63085]

Hey everybody,

I have lost a lot of weight over the past years and I feel like I want to go outside and be free now.  The only thing is that I am in a relationship and this person is afraid that I will not be able to control myself.  It's true-when I am manic I do have problems keeping myself in line, but I am not manic.  I am starting to feel trapped, but then again, I do not trust myself too much either.  

It has been five years since I have been out of the house on a consistent basis.  Should I be trusted to conduct myself in the right way or has my past created a problem concerning trust for my relationship?

[Xila31]

Thanks, I'm not that wise, just observant. You're wise because you got what I meant. And you're right, never leave the people who stick with you when you're down because those are the people that really care about you. Everyone else is just fluff and nonsense. That's why wedding vows say "In good time and bad."

I'm glad you worked it out! I hope you get out more and have fun together and feeling better.

[BD63085]

Thank you so much!  I think that I may have gotten a big head that needed some adjustment.  My family thought that I was depressed- and so did I.  

But the entire situation has been worked out because I communicated with him and I have learned a great lesson:

Never leave the person that sticks by you when you are down when you rise up.

You are very wise.

Thank you.

[Xila31]

I guess that depends on what you mean by go outside and be free. Does that mean go to the bar and party? Or go to a movie with a friend? Because those two things are both very different. Does it mean going to the park for a picnic? Or going to a strip club? See what I'm saying here?

Also, why can't this person you're in a relationship go with you?

It seems to come up a lot that when someone loses a lot of weight they suddenly feel "attractive" again and end up getting in trouble with their relationship. This by itself has nothing to do with bipolar people, just people in general.

I say your keys to success are:
Go to safe places
Avoid drinking and drugs
Take your partner with you
Don't flirt unless you're ready to break up

That's my advice, mania or not. In the end, if something bad happens to your relationship, then it wasn't meant to be.