Disappointment Harder for Bipolar People

[CRSeaside]

I got tricked today into believing a person who turned out to be an a- hole.
  Spent time making plans, being happy. Then I said something on an eml that ticked them off & bam.
I'm so disappointed. I want to cry over a wasted day. A wasted plan on a visit.
I'm so sad that I feel so tricked.  I hope no one ever comes to spoil my beautiful paradise here in Costa Rica. I'm tired of being nice to everyone.
  I'm a RealEstate Broker in CA & have spent my life being nice to people no matter how they acted or treated me.
    I feel depleted. Can anyone relate why disappointment is harder for us healthy Bipolars ?

[CRSeaside]

Thanks. At first I was taken in. Then realized this fellow was using me for free "phone sex". Rat.

[DGWR]

GOOD FOR YOU!!! Glad you told him off!!!

[rogelio63]

There's an aspect of my personality that troubles me in such situations, I've had to develop my emotions to a point that I can turn them off and on with relative ease.  I've had to do "distasteful" things in my life that required me to turn them off.  So when people disappoint me, it's fairly easy to put them in a place in my mind and not think about them anymore.  It's a blessing and a curse.

[CRSeaside]

Guess what. I forgave him a few days ago & he just did it again. I told him next time just call a 900 number. I'm used to quality, respectful friends.
I guess he's just a liar and a major piece of jerk work.
  Still hurt my feelings. Son of a witch!

[DGWR]

Not to sound cold but ppl will let you down, that's a given and it is unfortunate!  Sometimes there are ppl who looks to others, to make them happy but it can b a huge mistake!  As weaver71 stated; Faith is more important than getting what we want right now.
Don't stop being nice but don't put faith in others either!  You will find less disappointment that way!

[weaver71]

I'd have to say it depends on my mood. I have been hit hard with many tragedies and totally fallen apart, as well as handled better than a non-bipolar. People have been amazed at how I went from disappointed to, "Okay, that didn't work, so lets try THIS now. People have also been amazed at how much I overreact to small disappointments with passion and intensity. I would say that the lack of boundaries and limitations of the bipolar can make our responses go either way, really motivated or totally apathetic, it doesn't seem to matter for me what the situation, it is more dictated by my mood.

Now, perpetually working on letting go of any attachments or expectations has been making me not overreact as much. I too live in  beautiful vacation land, people come from Japan, Germany, India, they come from all over the world to see the place the Dahli Lama called a sacred power center. I have had many say they would come to see me, plan it even, but the only person i have met with is someone from the next town. I don't expect anyone will ever make it, but I haven't stopped inviting people. It's like my opiate detox, I was extremely disappointed, when my bipolar raised it's head up and roared at about a year clean. Man did I want to just give up, fortunately, I am not sure what giving up means. Give up what? I finally figured out what I wanted to give up, my expectations and attachment to my plans. I don't want to give up on being kind or giving. If Jesus decided to give up on everyone, due to disappointment, I doubt we would have ever heard of him and his message would have been lost. His highest achievements happened after he died, so maybe a little faith is more important than getting what we want right now.