how do i live life??

[jennstuff]

I have BPD and im trying to figure out how to live life..i look around me and i see everyone walking around with friends,,going out to eat with people,,there is so much i want to do ,but my bpd controls my life,,I want to go to the movies,,i want to go out to eat with somone,,,i want to go for a nice walk and not care about what people are thinking of me or how i look,,Im 31 years old and all my life i have lived a vary isalated life because of fear..FEAR of everything,,my moods are up n down .i only have 1 person in my life ..i cant make friends because i cant do anything,,please help me figure out how to start to live my life,,,,

[Venora Moonwind]

You can be in control of the bi polar isnead of it controlling you. make a list of the positive things. Bi polar isnt just about the bad stuff in our lives . Bi polar has also made me a warm, creative , loving person that is fun to be with. I wouldnt b e where I am today without my bi polar.
The other posters are right. See a therapist. the therapist can givve you the tools to work through the issues you have and put a positive spin on everything.
Love Venora

[zzzmykids]

You are in the zone many or all of us have experienced.  Do you have a place you can volunteer once a week and more as you get better?  Do you have an interest that you could incorporate into a job, like walking the elderly in wheelchairs outside?
When fifrst diagonosed BPolar it is hard to find just the right meds and over time they will change.  It is very important to have a psych that is not just a psychiatrist passing out meds but will listen and help you emotionally.  Also a talk doc, a doc or counselor that will help you walk through the valleys.  Mine has given me relaxation techniques, helped me journal and listened and talked and prayed longer than the hour I have with him.  An internest that will run all your blood tests and communicate between the other two docs.  I also see a chiropractor/kineseologist who keeps the blood and oxygen flowing to my brain. About having someone come visit to start a friendship, do you have a church or synagog close by?  Call them talk to the pastor or the rabbi and say you would really appreciate a visit from a woman if you are female and if male a male to talk and bond with.  It takes years to have intimate friendships.  BP has cost me a few intimate ones but MOST are still my dearest friends.  Good Luck. zzzmykids

[ILADVOCATE]

After starting treatment and talk therapy (cognitive behavioral therapy can be useful for bpd as well) its important to gage people's emotions and not to fear them either but also to understand that that's the way many people who don't have a psychiatric disability react to people who do and try to educate them. Nami friend and family support groups are good for that and they have handouts on bipolar and other common psychiatric disabilities and anti-stigma campaigns and ways to approach people about it. Part of it is your recovery and part of it is the way society approaches you. After you adjust to treatment and feel more stable both can be dealt with.

[bastet56]

Do you have borderline personality disorder (bpd) or are you bipolar (bp)? If you have bp you are in good company. Many of us have trouble with isolation and making friends. I know I do. I got a hobby and I meet people through it. They may be not friends yet, but we share a lot of the same interests and talk about them. As for fears, you have to try to face them or go into therapy to help you with them. Are you on meds? Are they helping you? If you are not on meds you needs to see a psy doc and be medicated to stop the ups and downs. This will help a lot. Read as much as you can about your illness and how others have dealt with it. Come here and join in.