What a great forum for support. I have read a couple of the latest postings for birad 5 category readings...and they have been an encouragement.
My dilema is this: My friend is 52 years old...she has some emotional and learning disabilities. I took her to her 6 month followup mammogram yesterday from earlier this year (birad 3). And the radiologist rated her a category 5 birad. Her primary care physician's nurse called and spoke with her and told her to go and see a surgeon....and knows of her handicap so she said that there was reason for further testing...but did not say the "C" word to her because that would send her into a tailspin. I got on the phone and she explained everything to me in detail. She is currently working for a company that has employed her for the past 10 years and she has great insurance. So telling her that she might have cancer will send her into DEEP depression and it definitely would affect her performance at work. She would cry nonstop and tell everyone she had cancer...even though we don't know that yet. Hence...my dilema. Do I tell the surgeon that we have an appt. with on Tuesday that I would appreciate it if he did not say the "C" word? And until the biopsy....there is no actual "proof" of cancer anyway....right? I have been her friend for 8 years and I know her very well. I have never kept anything from her....but until we know for sure....I don't want her to get herself all worked up....she doesn't have the same coping skills that most of us have. And I know that I am concerned enough for both of us. I will not keep it from her once we get the results....but bless her heart...I know that the waiting would be too hard for her. What do you think?