Hi there,
Thanks for your kind words. I appreciate the responses. My mom is going in today and will get her exam. Unfortunately I can't be there with her cuz I live out of state. However her two very close friends and my brother are with her. We love her very much and I keep encouraging her that it will all be alright. There is so much they can do now for this and she's going to the City of Hope and I know they will take good care of her. There is such great support every where it's just wonderful. God bless you all!
That was a harsh comment from the ER doctor. If you think about very "analytically", he is telling the truth: if a person has breast cancer and they don't treat it, they will probably die. And that is true for every single person in the world, not just your mom, so he did not need to say it that way. That comment was unnecessary.
Tell your mom that she is very likely to be fine and nothing can be known til the diagnostics are run and they see what is going on with her. Each case is unique. Make sure your mom gets lots of support and is not left alone to worry herself. I know how scary it is for her. God Bless you both.
Okay, so this one doctor in the ER came right out and stated... "his opinion" regarding you mom's condition. But, that's his opinion, no doubt based on experience; but also likely without benefit of complete and extensive diagnostic testing. Thankfully, she's about to undergo the kind of testing that'll give insights into her current status (a diagnosis); recommendations for her course of treatment; and, a subsequent prognosis.
But, it's really hard to say this early into her care, what her survivability will be. And, one will always second guess as to what she could have or should have done about the lump... and whether or not she waited too long. But, please don't allow herself or anyone else for that matter... "beat her up" and scold her over that. She feels bad enough as it is, I'm sure. Eventually, you'll have answers to your questions and concerns. But, right now, what's imperative is that your mother receive immediate medical attention, compassion and loving support from those around her. And, think positive thoughts... that always goes a long way.
Take care... my prayers and best wishes go to you and especially, to your mom.