where is my motivation?

[TrainWreckBarbi]

Over the past year things have gone down hill for me. and they have gone very quickely. I have been gaining weight.. about fifty pounds.. I have no job.. no apartment.. and no social life really.. I can't figure out how to motivate myself though I really do want to change... I just need help... I need some sort of motivation.. everyone who hd tried to help has failed.. I guess I'm just hoping to talk to someone who has been through this before to talk to. because I am in desperate need.

[margypops]

Raven is right it has to come first from you, motivation comes from yourself, all the words here may help but basically it comes from you and your attitude, you have to get tough, with you, you want to lose weight well get out walking and I mean fast walking unless you have a condition  that wont allow it, eat a lot, but eat a lot of veg, fruit, protein ...cut out all the junk that we all indulge in,once you get into that habit, you will stick with it, it becomes a habit and I would venture to say from experience an addiction .Read some positive books one good one I have had much help from is called 'Slowing down to the Speed of life 'by Richard Carlson,most books can be got online now at very cheap prices .I guess you are living with Family, well run around and take any job available  it does'nt matter what , from that you work upwards,,start to feel like a winner and you will be one ...trust me ..  

[RavenT]

Hello, I have just joined this forum and would like to give some support... It sounds like you have hit a rough spot in your life.. I have been there and done that.. was what I considered to be homeless for about 7 months in 2007. was working day to day to put a roof over my head. No food and No job.

Not sure what you mean by everyone having failed when they tried to help...

Inside of you there is strength... You need to look for it.. for you are worth the fight!! There are books you can read about how to find things within yourself, but with it all you have to do the work.. NO ONE can do it for you!!! You are the one who needs to go to battle for yourself!!!