One day I was washing all the family bedding. As I was taking apart the pillow case from the pillow of my 13 year old, adhd son, I felt something odd. I reached in and pulled out a pair of my 17 year old stepdaughters in unclean panties. I confronted him, he admitted it and agreed to stop. About a week went by, as the kids were in school, I was straightening up their bathroom, as I walked by the hallway closet, I saw something out of the corner of my eye that just didn't seem right. I looked over, and in a of shoe is another pair of unclean panties. We discussed it yet again. I told him this behavior is unacceptable, and he said he understood and agreed to stop. As time went on, I found more crumpled up panties in his dresser. I've talked to my husband. He didn't really say anything at first. But now he's not having it. I've since took my son to therapy for an initial visit. Waiting to go back.
My son is a good boy whom is very sensitive and will get his feelings hurt if you look at him wrong or he'll cry as he's getting yelled at. As we came back from a very fun & exciting week vacation, I caught my son coming out of my other 19 year old stepdaughters room carrying nothing. I told him to put back whatever he had gotten, he said he didn't have anything. We argued quietly for a few minutes. He finally went back into her room unnoticed. I trusted he would do the right thing. A couple days later, I was in the kids bathroom putting toiletries away, and saw something out of the ordinary. In the cabinet over the toilet, (which is pretty high, and hangs on the wall) top shelf, there's f I v e pairs of unclean panties. Oh My Gosh.............
............this IS THE LAST STRAW! I told him that if he had any garments as of lately, get them, bring them to me in a triple tied bagged, and I would take care of them. And if he was to EVER do it again, I would be telling his STEPFATHER. He doesn't like it when he's yelled at, let alone when he gets in trouble. I've tried grounding, taking his phone, iPod, Xbox live, home computer games, D's etc.....I don't know what else to do, unless this is normal behavior for a 13 year old adhd boy going thru puberty. Any Insight?