13 year old son in the same bedroom with new 9 year stepsister

[mom0850]

My ex husband just remarried we have 2 sons. His new wife a daughter 9. He put the 9 year old girl and our 13 year old son in the same bedroom. He did not think it was right to take our 15 year olds bedroom from him!! Please tell me your opinion on this.

[margypops]

this thread is 4 years old maybe you could start a new one and ytell us what happened ...

[anne160]

i have a 15 year old daughter and a 19 year old step son and he made a move on my daughter and got her pregnant

and i even told the dad not to

[sarahann82]

In Connecticut it is illegal to have a boy and a girl  from the ages 2 and up sharing a room.  After a year they need their own room.  If the state finds out there will be seroius problems.  I have witnessed it all before.  DCF will take the children and put the foster care until the situation is changed.  Doesn't sound like he cares much for his new child.  The boys can share a room, or maybe he should invest in a 4 bedroom instead of three, the kids have to except the changes the parents made the parents need to except the changes that occur because of their actions.

[cshimra]

My sons father is now involved in a live in relationship with a woman who has two daughters, 13 , and 20, and she is also getting ready to have a baby boy in June. They have taken my sons bedroom , and told him they will paint it for the 13 year old girl , and put a bunk bed in it for him when he comes . My son is almost 9 years old , and my question is one , how will this affect him , and two what are the child visitation laws in the state of Fla. concerning this sleeping arrangement , if anyone knows?

[PGB]

The first poster is right.  These kids have enough adjusting to do right now just adjusting to a stepmom/dad and stepsister/brother, they don't that on them too.  I also think they are a little old to be putting boys & girls in the room together.

[anxiousmomtobe?]

Your ex is being ridiculous.  It is wildly inappropriate to put these kids in a room together.  I can't imagine either of the kids like it much!!!  Child WElfare would certainly disapprove.

You older son will just have to learn to live with his sib or your husband needs to buy a bigger house.

[who_dis]

Solid advice!

[mom@homenow]

Although the 9 & 13 yr old may be fine together today, I think it's a really bad idea. Not that anything objectional will definately happen, but it's asking a lot of the two of them to make mature decisions at very early ages about respecting privacy and more. If your boys had seperate rooms (which it sounds like) and she just has the one girl, then neither of them has ever really been exposed to sharing space with anyone, never mind someone of the opposite sex. I know bioligical siblings of the opposite sex who had to share a room but they would tell you it wasn't easy as they got older and they started when they were very young. The two you're discussing are new step siblings, and so have not grown up in the same household never mind the same room. The situation is pressuring them to suddenly act like siblings, follow new rules from a new parent, share a room with someone AND maintain appropriate limits when unsupervised in the bedroom, all at once. That's a lot for anyone to deal with, never mind a tween and a teen.

Anyway, you wanted opinions and that's mine. I'd put the 13 yr old with his brother and deal with any negative feedback that creates from the 15 yr old before I'd put the girl & boy together.