Help me please!!! My 7 year old little girl is completely out of control. She is ADHD, but on top of that she is the most defiant child I think I have ever met. I have tried eveything from talking nicely to her to spanking to explaining calmly why it's not okay for her to be disrespectful to me, my fiance', and anyone else for that matter, and that if she would behave that she would get more good attention. I started her in counseling and she has had two sessions, but I am not sure if it will help. She seems to think that she should get whatever she wants and that she doesnt need to do what is asked of her. She is throwing unreasonbly obnoxious temper tantrums, throwing things, breaking things, yelling, screaming spitting at me and on our floors, and last night she was threatening to run away, tried numerous times to walk out the door, I had to pick her up and carry her or drag her to her room with her kicking and fighitng all the way. Then she picked up a ceramic figurine that she had in her room and drew back as to throw it at me then when I asked her to give it to me she just looked at me then said give me back my blanky first. She was completely out of control. I have now taken all her toys out of her room except for some that are high in her closet and she cant reach. Please help. I am to the pooint of either sending her to live with her father, which right now is almost out of the question. We are in the middle of a custody battle, and if I send her to his house he may get full custody, or some sort of child boot camp. I wont give up on my little girl, does anyone have any ideas?