My daughter will turn 3 next month.. and she's out of control. My husband is in the Army (stationed in Korea right now) so I'm living w/ my dad to save money. She's just horrible. I don't even know where to start. Well, just last night I sent her to her room for not listening when i told her not to spin in circles because she's prone to falling and hurting herself, so I told her to go to her room. She then crossed her arms, put her head up in the air and started singing and walking in the other direction. Then when I try to get her hand, she runs away from me. So, I put her in her room and tell her to stay in there until dinner's ready. 20 minutes later, she comes out w/ poop all over her hands, and I look in her room and she smeared it all over her TV, all over her bed, on the walls, just about everywhere you can imagine. I almost threw up it was so disgusting. So, I didn't know what to do, so I put her in my room while I cleaned it and told her how disgusting it was to do that. Yeah, I got pretty mad. So, I'm cleaning it and then I walk into my room, and she's taking my makeup and drawing all over my dressers. So, then I took her and sat her down in her chair so she could watch me clean up her mess and to see how unhappy I was with her. It was disgusting.
So, this was the tip of the iceberg. I know I need help after last night. She just won't listen to anything I say. She'll take her food and smear it on the TV in the living room. She colors all over the walls, (I took them away after that one). She has a serious attitude problem. She never does what I tell her to do. She'll either walks away from me, like "I don't hear you", she'll point at me and call me a jerk and then run away, she'll try kicking people in stores, or when someone says hi to her, she'll say "get away from me". She runs away from me in stores, There's so much more.
When she's with my mother, she's perfectly fine. My mom will ask her to pick up something and she does it right away. I don't understand it. She's a very smart kid. She's not even 3 yet, and she's known her alphabet, the sounds that some of the letters make, she can count to 20 in english and 10 in spanish. Everyone is shocked, when I tell them, how bad she acts. Everyone (except my mom) has told me to bring her to the doctor.
I've tried time-out, 1-2-3, taking all of her toys and tv away, even spanking, nothing phases her. She doesn't care, and just does the same thing all over again. I don't know if it has something to do with not seeing her Dad or what. What should I do?