4 year old out of control

[angelmomtyler]

I have a little boy that turned 4 a couple of days ago. Up until now, i would say he has been the perfect child, I have three so i am experienced...lol Recently he hasbegan throweing tantrums and biting and refusing to listen to the simplist things, tonight he grabbed the dog and squeezed her so hard I almost was inclined to take her to the vet!!!

[musicmama]

If the child doesn't respond to punishment, don't worry.  Just be consistent.  I like sending my daughter to her room for tantrums because we don't have to listen to it.  It sends the message that we are not putting up with that.  Allowing her to come out when she is "finished" makes her responsible for controlling herself.  She often comes out, still crying.  I tell her to go back until she is done.  You don't have to get a reaction, and he doesn't have to act like he cares about the punishment.  I would expect an apology for hurting anyone or anything else.  The dog deserves an apology too! . . .(and maybe even a kiss to make it better.)

Hang in there.  There is always an answer.
Good luck and God bless.

[angelmomtyler]

well, I use time outs for consequence, but to be honest last nigh when he hurt the dog, i flipped. I know it may seem harsh but i took all of his toy boxes and tv and gave him ONE swift spank on the bum. I just couldn't believe that he would hurt an animal. 2 years ago, my youngest son passed away from sids, but i odnt believe he remembers as he was less thatn 2, no new daycare kids, but a new neighbour! Maybe I will take a closer look when they are playing an see if this might be the source!!! Any more suggestions? what do you do when the child responds to no sort of punishment?

[musicmama]

What kind of consequence did he have?  When our daughter throws tantrums (which is becoming less frequent), we put her in her room until she is done screaming and crying.  No one is allowed to give her attention until she comes out calmly.  I would do the same for biting and hurting the dog.  Have there been any changes in his life?  Are there any new children in daycare?

Good luck and God bless.