7 y.o. daughter is upset and angry. What can I do?

[guineapigcorn]

My almost 8 y.o. daughter is in second grade and last year she had many friends and went to parties and lots of playdates.  She hung out with one girl over the summer.  They were together all the time, but once school started she started ignoring my daughter.  I also noticed that after school in the park my daughter would be alone almost always.  She befriended a girl who has some developmental delays and my daughter thinks that is why her former friends are shunning her.  Few girls like my daughter's friend.  It is so unfair and it hurts me so much to see her unhappy.  I am delighted that she did not ababad memories as a child so I don't want her to go through it.  I am angry at the parents, who are cliquish and ndon her friend for popularity, if that is the case, but I am also really angry that this is being done to her.  I have alot of anger at the parents who are also cliquey and barely speak to me.  Their daughters are the same way.  I feel like I want to fight the battle for her.  I know that isn't the right thing to do so I just stand there watching and my heart breaks.  She is incorrigible at home so it's constant screaming and arguing.  At school she is perfect but has lost her popularity and she is a social girl and likes to be with friends so this is killing me.  Is there anything I can/should do to help?  I'd like to know the real reason behind these girls rejecting her.  Thanks.

[margypops]

I understand how you feel we do want to fight our childrens battles but I dont think you can make other children be her friend because you think they should, it does sound unfair and I would feel the same way ,you have my sympathy, I do believe she has to do do it for herself, if these girls ignore her, so be it, it would be better if you  let the issue go,could it be possible that you are talking about it . making a bigger issue than it may be if left alone.The screaming and argueing at home would be a good thing to focus in on,and fix  what do you fight about,you say its killing you that she has lost her popularity perhaps you are seeing it the wrong way.My answer is leave her alone to sort it out,dont get so involved,work on yours and her relationship and stop yelling .at her .Good Luck