6 year old jealous daughter

[Patty006]

Hello everyone! I know my boyfriend almost one year and 5 month ago I moved in with him. He has a 6yrs old daughter which at first was really quiet about our relationship. Since I moved with him I asked him not to kiss me in front of her or show any kind of affection when she’s around just to give her time to get used to me living in his house but recently she’s being really bad, for 2 occasions when she arrives to the house she makes faces disliking me and even said a few things to confirmed. I feel really bad cause I always try to not make her feel uncomfortable, play with her, try to speak with her, etc but every time is worst, I don’t know how to handle the situation because my boyfriend spoke with her and he finds that her reactions are normal and say that is a kid which bothers me cause I don’t treat her bad to get that behavior from her.

[specialmom]

So, six year olds want to be the center of attention. All of them.  So, she feels vulnerable.  I think her dad should have 'the talk' and tell her that she can adjust to you at her own pace, no hurry, but she can not be rude.  And then back off.  Always be friendly and available without pushing.  And let her know she's most important to her daddy.  I admire how you've been trying to make sure she is comfortable and feels important.

Mixing things with a person who has a child from a previous relationship is hard.  It's a big reason why couples end up breaking up.  I would forgo having a child with her dad for a good long time as that will just be so hard on her fragile sense of place in the family.  And if you are compassionate to her feelings and take this slow, hopefully she will warm up to you!

Oh and please do not be angry for how she is acting. She's not thrilled with the situation.  But she's young.  The world is still about her.  And what she wants is for her parents to be together or for her to have her daddy all to herself.  Not unreasonable for a kid to want that.  It's understandable.  Even if it is not realistic.  As time goes on and she sees things are going to be okay and she is still important to her dad, she should soften.  AND, the dad needs to make sure she is polite.  Don't you do it.  Let him be disciplinarian and boss of her and you are behind the scenes working with the dad, if that makes sense.  good luck