Toddler girl possessiveness towards men only

[newmommy1]

A few months ago, I visited my friend and her 3 year old daughter.  At first, it took time for her daughter to warm up since it's been a v long time since I've seen her.  But after the daughter played with my boyfriend, she only wanted to play with him and screamed at me when I tried to play with her or touch her toys.  During dinner, she had to have my boyfriend sit beside her.  After dinner, she also started to get cuddly and climb on him and sit in his lap. Then, I sat beside my boyfriend and she said "I don't like you". I said, "Excuse me" (I didn't even say or do anything!). Her mother tried to discipline her (obviously not enough) but refused to apologize.  Later in the evening, my boyfriend had one arm around me and the daughter started pulling at my other boyfriend's arm.  He refused to budge and she started have little temper tantrums. Also, while having dessert, the 3 year old wanted my boyfriend to sit beside her and also told him to pull his chair closer to her.  Then she said, "He (my boyfriend) is my friend".  I said, "He has more than one friend.  Your mommy and daddy are his friends.  Are you saying that your mommy and daddy cannot be his friends?" The daughter didn't say anything.  I repeated to my girlfriend what her daughter said to me and what my reply was but she just smiled. The father is not helpful by asking her daughter to share food with us but she obviously share with my boyfriend.  Also, the dad would ask my boyfriend to take a photo with his daughter!   Let's say the parents did not discipline enough b/c the entire night, I'm thinking what is wrong here?!  They did mention that their daughter only likes to play with boys but still.... this is v strange.  Let's say if her daughter was a teen, should I be afriad that her daughter going to stalk me?

Can someone explain what kind of behaviour and what is wrong with this 3 year girl? She's possessive over a complete male stranger that just played with her for a short while.

[newmommy1]

To clarify, I said "if her daughter was a teen, should I be afraid that her daughter going to stalk me?"... I am aware she is 3 and do not need to be afraid or have issues with a 3 year old girl.  I am not jealous or angry of a 3 year old girl but find this behaviour strange as I have never encountered such a child.  And I did not say she should be punished her for actions but felt she needed to understand it's not right to be rude and apologize and understand her actions are wrong.  

Actually, I was looking more for an answer like maybe the parents should have taken time to explain to the child instead of letting do what she likes to other people, be rude etc etc instead of criticizing my reaction.  If everyone reacted the same to the behaviour, I wouldn't have these questions.

Reading back my question, perhaps I didn't explain well....I felt there was something wrong when the father knows the daughter doesn't like me and when he purposely tells his daughter to share food/take photo/give hugs, etc with my bf and me...but we all know her daughter will not with me and the father thinks its funny and encourages it that it's okay to be like that to me.   I felt this kind of encouragement is wrong from a parent.

Thank you for trying to help but I don't need your sarcasm.

[myenzoorka]

Umm, from what you've relayed, all I can figure is she was fond of your boyfriend.  It happens.  She may even have a bit of a crush on him.  She's not going to stalk you - she is 3 years old.  There was no need for punishment because she acted the way a normal 3 year old acts - they speak their mind.  Perhaps she was rude to say she didn't like you - but it's HIGHLY doubtful that she meant you any harm.  She just spoke her mind and she's 3!!!  Honestly, none of her behavior was strange - but your reaction to it is.  You sound jealous and angry - of a 3 year old!  You were not dealing with an adult.  If you plan on visiting your friend and her daughter again, you may want to brush up on how children act before visiting.  Or, you may want to leave your boyfriend behind since you have issues with a 3 year old liking him.