My husband and I recently got married 3 months ago. I have a 10 year old son and he has 2 girls a 9 and 14 year old. I've known my husband for over 3 years, and he has been divorced for 4 years. When him and his ex separated the little one did not want to spend any time with her dad but the oldest was always around....to the point that she would have his phone and would fall asleep in his room that way he wouldnt wake her up (he would sleep on the couch but thoes were not her intentions). Well time flew by his divorce final and he proposed, we bought a house together and then came the wedding. We tryed to keep her involved as much as we could but she was so upset "her" dad was getting married. Well before the wedding my husband found out she was having trouble at school and not showing up to her classes and getting home late. Two weeks after our wedding she got out of school and wasnt coming home...we started getting worried even the police was called...eventualy she showed up, her mom was so mad and called my husband and said "come and get her". We went and picked her up....2 days later I enrolled her in a new school, talked to her counselor, would take her to school every morning....but no matter how much I did she didnt appreciate and was all over her dad, questioning him why he had gone to my work to see me, or question him why he he wouldnt tell her about the things he would do with me. She always has his phone, sits on his lap, has gotten close to him face to face while he was sleeping and when he woke up there she was, she even open the door to our room one time when we were having sex. It's so weird but the little has her moments where she wants to be all over him and he stops her and tells her to go play but the oldest....nothing!! I have talked to my husband, we have gotten to the point that we are not having that much sex or always in arguments (not infront of the kids). We both came to agreements on what I had to say...we decided to talk to her and all she did was pt her head down and cryed. We cant seem to get any info from her on ANYTHING....her life, thoughts, felling...nothing. I told her I'm not her to take her dad away, that the love her dad has for them is different from the one he has for me, but apparently she doesnt understand. I havetalked to a counselor because I'm just soooo frustrated. She has pictures of her dad when she was in junior high (approx time he met her mom) and pics of them two. She is always talking about her mom and how her and her live-in BF (who is the same guy she left my now husband for) are always arguing or how the mom talks to other guys. She has came to the extreme that on mother;s day she told me how much she hated me and that she liked me better when I was just her dad's friend, she kept saying how much she didnt want to go to our wedding and when she found out we were engaged....and she has done this to me 3 times and when I approched my husband about him not saying anything to her or to stop he said he didnt think much of it that he just thought she was expressing her feelings. She is a beautiful and smart young girl, but to me she is obsessed....she will watch football (even though she knows nothing about the sport, but I love football so I can see why she does it), my husband loves working on cars so she will go and try to help him, she will listen to the music he likes. She wont eat, sit, shower, ect, unless he tells her to. Even one time before we married they came to my apt and he walked to my room to use the master restroom and she was walking after him....I always saw this but I think in the back of my head I would try to justify her actions. Please help me I dont know what else to do!!!