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My 4yo saw me.
My 4yo daughter caught me masterbating while on phone to my fiance who was away for work at that mo. I thought she was asleep for an hour or so. Got carried away and put my hand down my trausers. I was fully clothed, laying down on sofa, and i was making noises...
She called me from bedroom, and went rightaway to see her, her face was red and asked me what i was doing? I said i have a terrible back pain. I didnt see her comming to the front room but she did and she saw me (dont know for how long as my eyes were closed) ran back to her bedroom and called for me.
This was maybe 6 weeks ago. A week or so after she started doing 'sexual' noises, in different situations....when playing, when out on her bike, when dancing and singing . It might not be what i think it is but everytime i hear her i hear myself that night. Tonite while she was putting her pijamas on, and had no idea i was watching her she open her legs and was tapping or slapping her genitals, could not see very well. I let her know i could see her and she stopped. After she was in her pijamas when kissed her good night told her she has to behave like a pretty young girl not like an adult and that it was ugly, and that genitals are to touch after using toilet, when itchy and when having a bath, otherwise she could get an irritation and we will have to take her to doctors. Asked her if she wanted to tell me things and she said she will not do it again and didnt wanted to talk.
Over xmas she went to her dad's (we are separated) and she told me, that she told him smtg abt mommy moaning abt her back, and she said smtg like she doesnt believe it was my back or her dad said it was not my back. She also mentioned him i was on the phone to my fiance.
Ever since she came back from her dads she says she doesnt like my fiance, and that she doesnt want him to come back from work next week. I asked her why and she told me she was told not to by her father. She then admited it was a lie and she was never told so by her father, and her father told her she has to talk and play wt my fiance. He is always been very good wt her and spoiled her a lot in the last 8 months since they met. Tonite she took photos of her and 'covered' the photos of me and my fiance. We have a lil statuette reperesenting my fiance and work, and she turned that facing the wall....
I am sick worried. I thought as she is so young she will forget abt it in a few weeks time. Me and my bf are very careful not to expose her to anything but the normal ( a kiss, not french, or holding hands etc).
I feel so guilty. What should i do? I would search for help, like proffessional help. We moved to England a few months ago and she cant speak english... If i speak to pediatrician abt this will i have my daughter taken away from me? Could the father use this to take her away from me? Is she affected by what she saw? What shall i do?
She called me from bedroom, and went rightaway to see her, her face was red and asked me what i was doing? I said i have a terrible back pain. I didnt see her comming to the front room but she did and she saw me (dont know for how long as my eyes were closed) ran back to her bedroom and called for me.
This was maybe 6 weeks ago. A week or so after she started doing 'sexual' noises, in different situations....when playing, when out on her bike, when dancing and singing . It might not be what i think it is but everytime i hear her i hear myself that night. Tonite while she was putting her pijamas on, and had no idea i was watching her she open her legs and was tapping or slapping her genitals, could not see very well. I let her know i could see her and she stopped. After she was in her pijamas when kissed her good night told her she has to behave like a pretty young girl not like an adult and that it was ugly, and that genitals are to touch after using toilet, when itchy and when having a bath, otherwise she could get an irritation and we will have to take her to doctors. Asked her if she wanted to tell me things and she said she will not do it again and didnt wanted to talk.
Over xmas she went to her dad's (we are separated) and she told me, that she told him smtg abt mommy moaning abt her back, and she said smtg like she doesnt believe it was my back or her dad said it was not my back. She also mentioned him i was on the phone to my fiance.
Ever since she came back from her dads she says she doesnt like my fiance, and that she doesnt want him to come back from work next week. I asked her why and she told me she was told not to by her father. She then admited it was a lie and she was never told so by her father, and her father told her she has to talk and play wt my fiance. He is always been very good wt her and spoiled her a lot in the last 8 months since they met. Tonite she took photos of her and 'covered' the photos of me and my fiance. We have a lil statuette reperesenting my fiance and work, and she turned that facing the wall....
I am sick worried. I thought as she is so young she will forget abt it in a few weeks time. Me and my bf are very careful not to expose her to anything but the normal ( a kiss, not french, or holding hands etc).
I feel so guilty. What should i do? I would search for help, like proffessional help. We moved to England a few months ago and she cant speak english... If i speak to pediatrician abt this will i have my daughter taken away from me? Could the father use this to take her away from me? Is she affected by what she saw? What shall i do?
kids naturaly want to b like mommy or daddy so it is normal for her to try to do what u do u need to talk to her and explain that what u were doing was something that grown ups do but that if little gurls do it they can make their privates hurt u need to also make sure she knows that no1 but her should touch her there and see if she has any questions be honest with her (sencored of course) kids r smarter than we want to believe and if u lie she will think its because u r ashamed of what she saw the fact is she saw it and u cant go back and change it so there is no point in beating urself up over it
HY LU!! WELL THE 1ST THING TO DO IS NOT TO DO THAT AGAIN WHILE SHE IS IN THE HOME, WITCH YOU MAY ALREADY KNOW. CONTINUE TO TELL HER SHE SHOULD NOT REPEAT WHAT SHE SAW FOR SEVERAL OF REASONS. IT IS OKAY TO TELL A DOCTOR, THAT IS THE BEST THING TO DO. JUST BE HONEST ABOUT IT. THEY WILL NOT TAKE HER FROM YOU UNLESS SHE IS BEING ABUSED OR SEXUALY MOLESTED OR NEGLECTED. ALTHOUGH A FATHER CAN ALWAYS EXAGERATE AND USE IT AGAINST YOU JUST TO ONLY GET AT YOU. HE SHOULD NOT KNOW ANY FURTHER INFORMATIONN OF WHAT GOES ON IN YOUR HOUSE HOLD. GOOD LUCK TO YOU, AND I AM SURE YOUR DAUGHTER WILL PROGRESS THAT CONCERN.
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