You are not over reacting, absolutely bad behavior whilst a child is in the room apart from the point of why was he not giving the child full attention.This is an old thread now but I hope you did pursue it, it says a lot about the kind of person he is to be able to do this with a child there .
Oh you are SO over reacting. The 19month old doesn't see the masturbation as sexual. I went through a period where I was wearing a strap-on under my clothes all the time and our family doctor said to let my daughter see it. She was 3 at the time.
WOW. You are absolutely doing the right thing here!!!! That kind of behaviour is completely unacceptable in front of a child!! The issues, confusions, and problems that can arise from a situation like this can be so very damaging (emotionally and physically) to a young kid who isn't NEARLY old enough to have any healthy understanding of anything of a sexual nature... I am outraged that the detective just dropped the case like it was nothing at all! This is a small child we are talking about here! And people wonder why some kids grow up to have severe sexual disorders, addictions, and behavioral problems! I mean seriously!
I agree 100% with aid821...this is inappropriate and most likely damaging...keep pursuing charges and push until something gets done. tell your daughter to stand up for her baby and look for a legal advocate...someone who deals with these cases and knows how the law works (to work WITH a lawyer) who can protect the child's interests.
you are NOT over-reacting! and yes keep pursuing the charges. That kind of behaviour is definitley innappropriate in front of a child. God only knows what might happen if he does get custody of him.