Sign of abuse??

[Nana432]

My 26 month old grandson sometimes wakes up from a nap crying hysterically, unconsolably for his father when his father is at work. His father pays very little attention to him, and has no patience with him. Sometimes when his father puts him in time out....they do not spank...he will cry hysterically and hyperventilate. Then afterwards he will be very clingy to his father. My daughter and her husband are perpetually at war and not a happy couple at all. The child is really a happy, very loving well behaved little boy. Which makes this behavior so out of place and uncharacteristic for him. His father has adult ADD and has tried to get on medicine, but "doesn't like the way it makes him feel". They are expecting their 2nd child in Janurary, another boy.
My husband and I wonder why this otherwise happy child behaves this way. Is this behavior a sign, or should we be worried that he is being abused by his father? My daughter has not worked and has been able to be a stay at home mom since he was born.  

[momagain59]

I think he is a very lonely, sad, child that is stuck in a terrible situation. I feel that his Mom and Dad are displaying a horrible atmosphere and they need to grow up. They could at least fight in private. Is he ever going to be able to get out of this? Do they plan on keeping the next baby and staying married? If s, I would have to ask them if they realize how they are affecting their son. This can be developed into depression for this child. It is so not fair for this little guy. Please try to spend as much time as possible with him so he can be exposed to something positive.

[April2]

I'm not sure this necessarily sounds like abuse. He does sound needy. Maybe he's a very sensitive child. I think the way he's acting at naptime sounds like night terrors to me. That's just my opinion.