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My child is the same way. People are wlays saying how sweet she is and yadda ydda. she is very smart as wel. She is very artistic and has been able to draw very well since she was 1.5. You know with thoes magnadoodle things. But she lacks in like disapline. She doesnt listen and I too have a younger child2 year differantce and she is always terrorizing my son. The other day I was in the bathroom and I cam out and she poured pepper inmy sons hair. Not only that she has a weird angry issue. Sy the sog rubs againts her if she walks past him and she like clenches her teeth together and like grabs him. I treid everything. even a time out chair and ignore her. when she gets up I place her back down. But what should be for minuets ends up to be 15. She also went outside the other day in the front yard . pulled her underwear down and triedn peeing ont he front lawn. I said "Jordyn your not a dog" and in a evel little voice said.." I am not a dog... i ama cat".. I just dont know what to do.. any tips??

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serenity_is_sometimes_hard · Answer

I can clearly identify with the issues you are having with your child. I have 6 children and the oldest has epilepsy. She needs alot of attention and even though I do my best to give attention to all of my chilren, one in particular is a mess. She has just turned 4 and she has a tantrum streak in her that will make you question your religion lol. I have often wondered if she is like mentally insane or something. She hits, bite scratches, screams and anything else she can do just out of the blue to get attention. Her thing is she wants all of the attention 24 hrs a day and doesnt care if anyone is sick, injured, dead or whatever. All she knows is if its not about her its secondary. She has hit me and I have a bite mark that will never go away. She has even done the pee outside thing and not only that, once when I told her it was bedtime she went in my room and pulled her pants down and pee'd on the side of my bed. IAll of my other children are compasionate, loving, helpful people and she tortures them for it. she even once tried to choke my 2 yr old with the belt of her robe. I am worried about the safety of my other children and am considering sending her to a behavior modification center near my home. It just pains me thinking of that and the fact that I can't do anything about it. We have tried everything and it doesn't phase her at all. I am even a psychology student. I started studying for my degree to try to gain some insight on this dilema of mines. My prayers are with you and all of us for that matter. lol God bless you and good luck with your child.

musicmama · Answer

You need to understand that your daughter (what age is she?) is a bright, creative thinker.  She needs stimulation, with patient responses to her odd behavior.  If she is hurting or annoying others, she can be placed in her room until she can figure out what she did wrong and apologize.  A type of discipline that will probably be beneficial to you is from a book called "No Backtalk" giving natural consequences.  

The incident in the front yard is a bit funny. . .unless she is 15.  It's OK to laugh at inappropriate behavior as long as they don't see it.

Good luck and God bless.