dare game between first graders and three year old....

[mama3mama3]

i caught my two sons who are 5 and 3, and another 5 yo in the bathroom sitting cross legged on the floor of a public bathroom, at a park. all the children know each other as this is a small community.  i know the other boys' family as well.  they were not alone for very long, (10 mins?) and i did not catch them in any acts. when i asked, what are you guys doing in here, my 3yo says, sucking on penises.  i about fell over. the neighbor boy initiated a dare game, and dared the 3yo to suck his 5 yo brothers penis.  and they did it.  i do not think it was "to fruition" for lack of a better word.  i think it was just short, and part of a game.  All three boys admitted to what happened.   the older two admitted to knowing it was inappropriate. upon further questioning, my older boy said he said no a couple times, but for some reason still let it happen. there was a discussion about wrongness, meanness to the little guy, and what to do next time anyone tries this again.  my question is, am i done? let it go? does this other boy need help? has he been abused? I'm pretty sure he got the idea from some kids he lives near, who are older. has this game happened to him? what can i do to help my boys? are they scarred forever? I'm not trying to under react, and i do not want to over react.... thank you.

[mama3mama3]

thanks for your input.  yes it stinks.  we have been over the don't let anyone touch.... but i guess being more specific like, don't let anyone touch or do anything to... like put it in something..... jeez!!

[specialmom]

OMG.  Shock to you mama!!  That is awful and very upsetting.  I'm sure you did just about fall over.  

I would be worried about the initiating boy.  I would contact his parents and let them know that perhaps their son has been molested by another child or someone in his life.  Very sad.  That's about all you can do.

And for your kids, start to minimize it now that you've told them this is a big fat no.  I'd have a discussion about NO ONE touching our privates and if they try or ask, they are to immediately leave and find an adult.  NO ONE touches our privates!!  

Very sad for the boy that has had this done and now your kiddos that had a bit of innocence stolen from that day.  I'm really sorry.  You sound like a good mama that will help your kiddos move on but that still REALLY stinks.  good luck