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daughter out of control
im asking this for my boss..
she has a 19 year old daughter that has the mentality of a 15 year old. her daughter spent most of her childhood sick and back and forth to different docters, and she now has her medical condition under control with the help of several different medications.
she has no father, as he passed about 5 years ago. so its just her and her mother.
my question is... she has been dating this loser since about october and she claims that he is the most wonderful person in the world even though anyone who knows anything about this kid will tell u different, even his roomate thinks hes out of control with jealously, and he is trying to treat her like his pet. this kid has been diagnosed with bipolar disorder, suffers from shitzophrenia, and when he was yonger him and his brother used to beat the crap out of their own mother.
my bosses daughter was like this perfect little princess, she would never even think of talking back to her mother, and they did everything together. but since she met this guy she claims her mother is over protective, controling, and just mean. shes has began to stay over night with this guy and never comes home. she dosnt have a job, due to the lack of things she can do with the medical condition and lack of effort on her part. she is in college and cant even keep her grades up and its everybodys fault but her own. she tells her mom that this loser would never do anything to hurt her and that everybody just needs to leave her alone and let her live her own life and quit treating her like a child.
recently her mother found some e-mails that the daughter had saved. it was a conversation that her daughter and the boyfriends roomate. the jist of it was that the bf was outraged about somthing and he was on his way over to her and her mothers house and the roomate was telling her to keep the doors locked, the lights off, and pretend to be sleeping. he told her to not engage a fight with him as it would lead to an ugly temper and he would problably hit the walls, scream at her and call her names, and maybe even threaten to kill him self if he feels that she is thinking of ending the relationship.one of the questions asked by the daugther was do u no if he has his knife with him, and the roomate responds by saying i dont know but i would keep him away from your mother.
my boss still hasnt let her daughter no that she saw this e-mail and came to me with it in hopes that i would be able to help her and i honestly dont know what to say. i told her that i would definately let my daughter know that i read it and tell her that it is not ok to be afraid to let your bf near your mother, if thats the case she needs to get the hell away from him before somthing terrible happens to one of them.
i have personally tried talking to her daughter as i have been in a relationship somewhat similar to this and she acts like she is listening and she understands but its in one ear and out the other.
her daughter is old enough to be on her own but she has to stay with mom due to the cost of her insurance all of her meds, college, and i believe she is just not capable of taking care of herself. (she cant even remember to take her medication)
i dont really feel that the bf would hurt either one of them i just think he using it as a scar tatic so she wont leave him. i think this kid really needs to get some help, and the daughter needs to get her head out of her a$$ and see the light but the first thing kids do when told not to do somthing is run towards it!!
if anyone has any advice it would be greatly appreicated!!
she has a 19 year old daughter that has the mentality of a 15 year old. her daughter spent most of her childhood sick and back and forth to different docters, and she now has her medical condition under control with the help of several different medications.
she has no father, as he passed about 5 years ago. so its just her and her mother.
my question is... she has been dating this loser since about october and she claims that he is the most wonderful person in the world even though anyone who knows anything about this kid will tell u different, even his roomate thinks hes out of control with jealously, and he is trying to treat her like his pet. this kid has been diagnosed with bipolar disorder, suffers from shitzophrenia, and when he was yonger him and his brother used to beat the crap out of their own mother.
my bosses daughter was like this perfect little princess, she would never even think of talking back to her mother, and they did everything together. but since she met this guy she claims her mother is over protective, controling, and just mean. shes has began to stay over night with this guy and never comes home. she dosnt have a job, due to the lack of things she can do with the medical condition and lack of effort on her part. she is in college and cant even keep her grades up and its everybodys fault but her own. she tells her mom that this loser would never do anything to hurt her and that everybody just needs to leave her alone and let her live her own life and quit treating her like a child.
recently her mother found some e-mails that the daughter had saved. it was a conversation that her daughter and the boyfriends roomate. the jist of it was that the bf was outraged about somthing and he was on his way over to her and her mothers house and the roomate was telling her to keep the doors locked, the lights off, and pretend to be sleeping. he told her to not engage a fight with him as it would lead to an ugly temper and he would problably hit the walls, scream at her and call her names, and maybe even threaten to kill him self if he feels that she is thinking of ending the relationship.one of the questions asked by the daugther was do u no if he has his knife with him, and the roomate responds by saying i dont know but i would keep him away from your mother.
my boss still hasnt let her daughter no that she saw this e-mail and came to me with it in hopes that i would be able to help her and i honestly dont know what to say. i told her that i would definately let my daughter know that i read it and tell her that it is not ok to be afraid to let your bf near your mother, if thats the case she needs to get the hell away from him before somthing terrible happens to one of them.
i have personally tried talking to her daughter as i have been in a relationship somewhat similar to this and she acts like she is listening and she understands but its in one ear and out the other.
her daughter is old enough to be on her own but she has to stay with mom due to the cost of her insurance all of her meds, college, and i believe she is just not capable of taking care of herself. (she cant even remember to take her medication)
i dont really feel that the bf would hurt either one of them i just think he using it as a scar tatic so she wont leave him. i think this kid really needs to get some help, and the daughter needs to get her head out of her a$$ and see the light but the first thing kids do when told not to do somthing is run towards it!!
if anyone has any advice it would be greatly appreicated!!
thanks for your response.. i dont know that she is that disabled but it would be a great idea if she was
Hey! I only have one suggestion, and it really depends on the severity of her daughters disability. Your boss could go to court and ask to be made her daughters guardian in light of the fact that her daughter can not take care of herself. It would be just like her daughter was underage again and her mother could prohibit her from seeing this guy, file a restraining order on her daughters behalf, etc. And, she could take the email to the police and request her own restraining order against the boyfriend but that really wouldn't help the daughter.
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