My nephew (from a Chinese family) is 4 years old, and is completely terrified of any sort of failure. For example, he will only engage in a new game if he feels he can succeed, he will drop a game if it looks like he is not going to win, he gets in tears if one of the planes on his little video game starts to show an unhappy face because it is getting delayed, etc.
His (Chinese) reading ability is really advanced, and he loves to show off how much stuff he has memorized, and keep repeating "I am really good, right?" (very probably echoing his parents and grand parents).
His parents made him learn pretty difficult stuff at a very young age (e.g. recognizing English letters when he could hardly speak).
When he was a little younger, he was terrified of getting dirty, he would not even walk on the dark wooden floor at our place if he could see dust on it.
I am concerned that this could put him in really difficult situations later on because I believe being able to face failure is probably as important as being able to bring success... And overall, it does not seem to be a very balanced behavior. Or am I just overly concerned?
What should I tell his parents, if anything at all?