fas and decipline?

[Jodytami]

I have a4 year old that is recently diagnosed with fas he is adopted and doesn't know it. He is very problematic at school and our 3 other children are fine at school, we have a newborn also that he rarely has anything to do with, he looks at me funny all the time or when i get on to him i have researched fas and find some of the  behaviors in serial killers, that i see in him. He is very emotional and crys allot wonders alot about dying and ask lots of  questions about it. Is he a serial kilter in the making, will he grow up and kill us all? The second question is how do i decipline my otherchildren the are 5 and 6 and do idecipline then the same or different,  how do i keep it fair. What do i do. I'm lost i just want him to be normal and there's no cure for fas, i need help.


This discussion is related to fas?.

[Jodytami]

Thank you

[adgal]

Well, I doubt he is a serial killer in the making.

FAS is brain damage as I'm sure you discovered in your research.  Many of my adult clients are FAS and although they have some serious challenges, I don't know of any that kill people.

FASD is a spectrum disorder, so there are varying degrees of seriousness. The first thing you need is a full evaluation and a good therapist that specializes in this disorder.  Most cities have associations dedicated to FASD and that is a really great starting point.  He is going to need a fair amount of intervention, and the earlier the better.

The two biggest things we see in FASD are very poor decision making ability and difficulty with self control.  These folks tend to be very easily led and have many outbursts of anger.  They do not have the same ability to control this as you or I.  There are of course a lot of other issues, but again, it really depends on the severity.  I encourage you to get involved in a support group and again, to contact a society or organization that deals with fasd.  If you are in the US, here is a link to a good website that can help get you started in finding both resources for your child and for the family.  I urge you to contact them and they can help you find additional resources in your area.

http://www.nofas.org/

I wish you well.