how to deal with my 8 year son who is behaving badly

[tina1324]

I have four children three boys and a girl last.My eldest son brian who is 8 is the whole time anoying the younger ones.He might be walking out past the 6 year old and he will give him a quick kick or a sly slap on the head when he knows iam not watching.He takes a toy off the others when they are playing with them.On the other hand the 3 boys could play outside for 2 or 3 hours and there wouldnt be a sound out of any of them they get on mighty outside even though brian gives the orders we will make this or do that the younger ones dont mind that.My biggest problem is school three boys in his class 2 of which live next door to one another and get on mighty jack and john, jack since day one doesnt want brian playing tries to keep him out of games in football teams if jack and john are not together jack goes mad tells teacher and she blames brian who was so sick for most of last school term i had to bring him to 2 different doctors that both came to the same solution anxiety that there must be something wrong in school.every day there was problems if brian accidently kicked a football at one of the other lads during a match jack would tell teacher brian done it on purpose teacher would punish brian.If this happened the other way around brian wouldnt even mention it.On friday brian kicked the football at a junior infants during a match parent rang up saying brian was at her child teacher after break infront of the whole class went on giving out for 15 minutes how would he like to be bullied asking jack whos the biggest in 6th class and how would you like it if they came down bullying him.I have already gone in to teacher to complain last year that she was callying him a bully in front of everyone on a no of occassions she stopped for a while but has now started again she believes everthing another child says before brian she has being caught out on this twice where kids lied to her i think they are so long listening to her giving ou to brian that they say let blame brian teacher will believe us anyway.Teacher keeps questioning him so much that brian starts crying in class thats the only time she believs that he must be telling the truth.I know brian is a messer i know when he tells me lies he gets so upset when he tells me he has been blamed in the wrong again for something that he begs me to go into teacher and tell her he was telling the truth.I dont want to be in and out to teacher about this.I wrote everything on paper this time of what happened on friday i was going to bring it in to teacher and give a copy of it to the principle tell both to read it over and arrange a meeting with them both for my husband and i to discuss it.Iam pure sick thinking of it all the time teacher calling brian a bully in front of everyone in class i need help trying to deal with it i cant sleep at night worrying am i one of these mothers that wont admit theres a problem with there child.Sibling tease and fight all the time.Brian anoys me all the time when he wont do things that i ask i have to say it 5 times before he will do it he anoys the others kids in the house teasing but he is also a very emotional lad always tells me he loves me and can be so nice when he wants to be to the others.Is there someone i could bring him to to talk to i dont know how to deal with.I know this is very long winded but iam so upset about everything thats going on if you could get back to me with any suggestions that you might have thanks

[eel81]

tina, do not think about what the other parents say. tell them you changed schools because you didn't want your son being picked on by the teacher anymore. and i found that yes teachers do stick together i found that out when i had my problems.

[tina1324]

Thank you so much for the feed back i have thought about changing schools but i would perfer to try and resolve it if i could even bringing the principle into it, do all teachers stick together, it is only a 2 teacher school with 1 of them being the principle if i changed schools it is a close net community where evereyone knows one another would be exchanging stories and would definately be talking as to why i changed him from his previous school if i say anything more to teachers will they hold it as a grudge with my other children that have to go to school yet iam am constantly thinking about it what to do what to say thanks again for the feed back its nice to know iam not the only one it is happening to

[margypops]

I agree there is a child /teacher interaction problem going on, speak to the pricipal about the whole matter and do not let this happen to your child,,change schools if you have to as I dont think it will change...Good luck

[eel81]

my suggestion is change school............. my son had a problem with his teacher and i tried talking to her and she didn't listen, he didn't wan to go to school anymore and kept saying he was sick and crying if i made him go.............. i finally changed schools and he loves it the teacher is nice and listens to him and he is better at school now. i found this to be the best thing for my son

the teacher should not bully him that is exactly what she is doing, and it should not go on any longer.