my daughter will not let me see my grand daughter

[vina280]

is there anyone out there who can help me? after 4 years of having my beautyful grand daughter over night and all the next day my daughter left her behind when she met a new horrible, controling man. she came back after 8 months and took her. he dont like me cos i told him he needed to take his dog out after being inside for 12 hours. now my daughter says i cant see her child as she is the mum and what she says goes. i miss my grand daughter so much and i know she is missing me. my daughter will not talk to me. please please can anyone give me advise.

[RockRose]

vina,  you don't say where you live,  but some places have grandparent rights.  You need to call a family law center or lawyer and find out in your state,  what rights you have.

I think your granddaughter is really at great risk for abuse (or at least neglect) in this situation.

I do agree with Margy,  that the first step might be to just apologize (although you have nothing at all to apologize for)  and express to your daughter that she might want date nights once a week or so,  and you'd be thrilled to take care of the little girl if she wants to go out.

If that doesn't work I really think you need to seek mediation.  This is the EXACT situation where children are at real risk for harm.

Best wishes.  You sound like a wonderful grandma,  and I hope and pray your grandbaby can come back to be with you.  

[margypops]

I am sorry it hurts doesn't it, all I can suggest is that you try to befriend them ,maybe take a gift for the child around to their house , speak to your daughter first and tell her how you feel, may have to eat some humble pie,but that may be worth it to get back on a good footing .. then do what many have to do , keep it zipped with the man in her life ,when it comes to confrontation. Good luck many go through similar ..