my grandchild

[jugosa]

my grand daughter visit me very often with her mommy and daddy we are a close family..
lately my daughter been having fears of her conversations with her daughter..she just called me crying
last night that my grand daughter keeps saying that the coocooe in black which means like a scary person
does sexual acts on her..we are trying to get her to give us a name but no success..i are very afraid that its someone we trust i have some one in mind which she spends lots of time with .without mom or dad..my stomach is in knots
just to think this could be happening to my grand daughter...she really loves her nino and nina which is my sister and her husband..where do i start as a grandma my daughter and son-ln-law are in there early 20s ..

[margypops]

I agree with allmymarbles, show the child pictures of close family and see what her reaction is , if she is afraid of one member you will know .

[allmymarbles]

It could well be a relative or a close family friend. Why not show her a lot of pictures, and include pictures of those you suspect. Carefully watch her reactions, or something she says without coaxing..

How old is your grandaughter?

[mcclure223]

Or search child advocacy center....all states have someone with this training. Nj has child protection centers

[mcclure223]

Or search child advocacy center....all states have someone with this training. Nj has child protection centers

[mcclure223]

Google Ur state-county child protection center...the should have detectives or trained people that conduct forensic sexual abuse investigations in a age appropriate way....never offer names u will lead a childs answers.

[jugosa]

I DONT SAY ANY NAMES I JUST COLOR AND PLAY WITH HER TO SEE IF IT COMES OUT OF HER ..I DID ASK HER WHERE DOES THE COOCOOIE TAKE YOU AND SHE SAID IN A BLACK CAR;( WHICH LITTLE BY LITTLE MY FEARS ARE GOING TO THE DIRECTION I SUSPECT LORD HELP US...BUT THERE IS MORE NEED OF FACTS SO WE HAVE TO WAIT WHICH GIVES ME SLEEPLESS NIGHTS JUST PRAYING THAT MY GRAND DAUGHTER GIVES MORE INFO;*(

[jugosa]

YES I HAD A TALK WITH MY DAUGHTER LAST NIGHT AND TOLD HER NOT TO LEAVE HER WITH ANYONE ...WE NEED TO GET TO THE BOTTOM OF THIS MATTER ..MY DAUGHTER TAKES CARE OF OTHER CHILDREN WITH HER MOTHER-IN-LAW AND DAD ALSO WORKS BUT THEY DONT NEED A SETTER OUR FEAR THAT ITS SOMEONE CLOSE TO THE FAMILY THAT WE TRUST THEM WITH HER SO THEY ARE GOING TO SUSPECT SOMETHINGS WRONG DO TO WE ARE NOT ALLOWING HER TO GO WITH THEM UNTIL WE RESOLVE OUR SUSPENSION OF WHO IT MAY BE

[adgal]

Oh, and be very careful not to ask her specific names.  Many young children will just say yes as they believe it pleases you.  I would refrain from questioning her, and allow a professional to do it.  In the meantime, I would not be leaving my child with anyone.

[adgal]

In my opinion this has to be handled very very carefully.  If your granddaughter is saying someone is doing sexual acts to her, this absolutely has to be investigated.  There are child physcologists who are properly trained in talking to kids about this issue and can question her properly.  They have professional training, and do a wonderful job.  Remember that most (or all) pedophiles threaten their innocent little victims.  They tell them things like if they tell their parents, the abuser will come and kill them or their family, that sort of sick and horrible thing.  I would immediately have her see a professional.  I can only imagine how you and your family are feeling right now.  I hope you get to the bottom of this quickly.  How old is she?

[margypops]

I would say that this child needs to be supervised can you be with her, it sounds as if someone maybe abusing her and I think you suspect that  What do her parents think have they any ideas what maybe going on , do they have anyone look after her whilst they are working or not at the house .Is the child in school?.