my son is 2 months away from being 5 years old and his behavior is driving us nuts. There is no downtime for us. We smoke but we only do it outside the home and when he is not nearby. When we go outside to smoke, he wants to follow us out. We have explained to him repeatedly that we smoke outside because it is not good for him to breath it in and he will not go back in the house; despite punishments of time out for not obeying us, spankings, no tv, etc. He also has this attitude inside the house about not wanting to be in a room by himself. He makes us go to the bathroom and stand outside the door and watch him go to the bathroom. he calls out my name every minute if I am doing housework and walk into another room only to tell me that he loves me when he hears my voice (its the fear I hear in his voice like he is alone that bothers me about this one). We have had quite a bit of adult stress in our lives lately and I am wondering if these acts are reactive to the stress he has felt from our stressors as well. We sold our house, moved to a rental to start building, i've been sick and out of work for 6+ months, our daughter is leaving for college soon (trying to start preparing him for that now), quit daycare recently (Behavior has been going on since June/July). And he will not sleep in his bed alone all night. Is he truly scared or being manipulative to get his way? oh yeah and he will not go to sleep. i can put him in bed with tv on Home shopping network and he will lay there and watch it for hours.