3 year old daughter out of control

[minnimomma123]

hi there. i dont know what to do to help my daughter out of this "phase" she is in. she is constantly throwing temper tantrums, refuses to listen. we have tried everything eg; time outs, loosing toys, bribing, talking to her, ignoring the bad behavior ect. nothing has worked. i feel like im failing as a parent now. any suggestions are appreciated. thank you

[minnimomma123]

well actually alot has happened in her life. she was with my mother then my mom took moved my daughter and herself away from my step dad to a new guy then dropped her off with me. and we have had to move twice with her plus we had a baby. so lotts has happened. we have tried to keep things as normal as possible with her. we try to play with her lots, but she refuses to let us get close to her (emotionally) she will end up throwing her toys at us and screams. i have contimplated the boredom but we have gotten her soooooo many toys differant ones to help stimulate differant parts of her mind. thank you for the suggestions. :)

[margypops]

I agree with meganne  time outs do work if you are consistant with them , 3 year old is a testing time ,has anything new happened in her life recently may make her more upset, new sibling ,new home family disruption, give her plenty of positive attention, play with her , boredom sometimes gets plays into this , so try to keep her occupied .Good Luck

[meganne]

I'm not a mother but I babysit alot and I have had kids test me. Meaning that they try all sorts of things to see how you react. My advice would be to ignore her tantrums. Put her in time out and if she keeps getting out put her back but don't talk to her. once she stays where you put her for the time out, start the timer. How ever old she is thats how long her time out should be. So if she 3 then her time out should be 3 minutes long.