Who might be the dad of my baby ?

[Kirito29]

Hi I just wanna ask if the result of my transvaginal ultrasound is accurate . I had my 1st period on dec.18,then had my next period on jan.18,2018, my period lasted for a week, so if i count from my LMP to my next my cycle would be 31days, i had unprotected sex with my bf after my period on january till feb.4 but im not sure when did he shoot it inside of me coz we do widrawal from time to time, then I had sex with some a guy on feb.6,2018 and it was unprotected then I also had sex with my bf on feb.8-10 both unprotected, I had a period on february between 10-13 not sure it made me confuse coz iys a bit early it was suppose to happen on feb.18 it only lasted for 3days its not as heavy as I used to have then i missed my period on march and had my transv on april 15 amd says i was 9weeks pregnant and my due is on nov.17 im so confuse who might be the father also to add my bf and I had a kid he only smokes and doesnt drink beer unlike the other guy I had sex with he is a chainsmoker and a drinker and I just found out he is positive with genital warts the result say I conceive on feb.10 but I had a period on feb. So confuse who is the father

[AnnieBrooke]

I can see what you want to be true, but genital warts, drinking and smoking do not make a person sterile. You are still going to need to do a DNA test to know for sure.

[Kirito29]

I see what kind of DNA test can I check the truth aside from paternity because paternity is very expensive here in our country

[Kirito29]

Then why did you say before that the posible father what my bf and the 2nd guy on feb.6 is not ?

[Kirito29]

Then why did you say before that the posible father what my bf and the 2nd guy on feb.6 is not ?

[AnnieBrooke]

I said that before because February 6 is too early to have produced the pregnancy. Around February 24 is when it might have been produced. But when you first wrote, you didn't happen to mention that you also had unprotected sex with both men around that time. Only long after giving the original information did you offhandedly mention that "Also to add mam i missed the details the 2nd guy and I had contact again from feb.21-24 all unprotected." This means, though February 6 is ruled out, the 2nd guy is not ruled out. You need to do a DNA test when the baby is born to be sure who the father is.

[AnnieBrooke]

Hi, is this what you are saying?

Period January 18-24

Sex with boyfriend January up to February 4

Sex with other guy February 6

Period February 10 - 13

Sex with boyfriend February 10 through end of month

Sex with other guy February 21 - 24

March period expected around March 12, didn't come

Ultrasound at ninth week indicates you conceived around February 24


Please correct any of the above dates. If you were regularly having sex with your boyfriend all through February, and then also had unprotected sex with the second guy on the 21-24, then all that will help you now to identify who the father is, would be a DNA test. You should test with both men.

[Kirito29]

Yes all the details you said was right mam, i had nothing to correct from them, my bf and I had a child before my pregnancy now I was just assuming or thinking now that it must been my bf coz we already had a kid why the guy 2 has a history of having a partner for 9 years but they didnt had a kid and he told me after what happened to us that he is positive with genital warts which makes me think maybe he wasnt the father coz having genital warts weakens the sperms of a man specially if he has bad daily habits coz guy 2 always drink like everyday and also smokes packs of cigarattes why my bf has a healthy sperm coz we already got kids before I met guy 2

[Kirito29]

Just so confuse now mam if i count my LMP from december-january i should have 31days cycle but when feb. Comes I only had 23days cycle and not the usual flow I used the fertile calculator base on my cycle if it true i am fertile from Feb.14-19 this are the days I had sex with my bf unprotected we do widrawal but between those days Im sure he shoot inside of me I remember while with the 2nd guy we had from feb.21-24 we meet around 8pm-2pm with those days I also had contact with my bf everymorning of those days so apparantly its like 2guys in a day, i feel like its my bf coz 2nd had problems ejaculating i never felt orgasm when we had sex while in my bf I feel everything and he always makes me orgas unlike guy 2

[AnnieBrooke]

Well, OK, you have to answer the questions a little more exactly. It matters. I asked "Did the doctor or ultrasound tech tell you that your due date is November 17 when you had the ultrasound at 9 weeks?" You answered by saying "the tech said" you were pregnant by February 10. Then you said "which makes my due date November 17." Did the TECH say November 17 or did you just go home and figure that part out yourself? I need to know what part of this you were told by an actual trained medical person, and which part you worked out yourself.

If you got an estimated due date (not just weeks pregnant, not just a comment that you were pregnant by February 10), and it came from the tech or the doctor looking at your 9th-week ultrasound's measurements of the embryo, not from you and not from the doc just using a little cardboard wheel or a calendar, and if it came from an ultrasound was early enough in your pregnancy to still be reliable for this purpose, it's possible to work out an approximate estimated conception date.

Please try to remember exactly what the tech or doctor said regarding this, and what part you added when you went home and worked it out. Specifically, I need to know if your due date came from your ultrasound, and if the due date (not just the weeks-pregnant figure) was told to you by a medical person.

[Kirito29]

Oh im so sorry for that , to answer it tho mam.. yes the tech said my due date is nov.17 when I visted her and I she said I was already 9weeks that day I visit(april 15). I ask her(my doctor) if my due date base on the transv is nov 17 when did I conceive she said feb.10 so before I live my doctor she told me 3 answers based on my test that I conceive on feb.10 and my due date is nov.17 and im already 9weeks pregnant when I visited her that day last april 15.

[Kirito29]

All the infos came from my doctor mam i didnt add or figure anything out from my self just to clear it mam

[AnnieBrooke]

My guess is that the part about conceiving on February 10 was either the medical person's misunderstanding of your question or your misunderstanding of their answer.

All medical people use a count of pregnancy that begins on or very near the first day of the woman's prior period. It is so automatic that they don't even think about it, and certainly almost never bother to define it. The medical count of the pregnancy time period doesn't begin with conception, it begins with day 1 of the last menstrual period before pregnancy (or with a computed day 1 if the woman doesn't know exactly when her period was and they have an ultrasound).

If the question you actually asked on April 15 was something like "How far along am I?" or "How many weeks along am I?" or if they just cheerfully told you that you were "9 weeks pregnant," well, you were. You were about 9 weeks from the first day of your last period. And that is how pregnancy counts start, with the first day of the last period. And you did have your period begin at around that time. But that is not the same thing as saying conception was on the 10tu of February. Your due date from that same ultrasound, and your period also, both point to around February 24-26 for conception.

[Kirito29]

I understand your point mam so all in all who might be the father maam ?

[Kirito29]

Also to add mam i missed the details the 2nd guy and I had contact again from feb.21-24 all unprotected but I also had contact with my bf days before me and the 2nd guy had met again from feb 10 onwards me and my bf had active sex all unprotected  so im confuse who is the father from them coz they we all had contact unprotected

[AnnieBrooke]

Did the doctor or ultrasound tech tell you that your due date is November 17 when you had the ultrasound at 9 weeks? If so, you didn't get pregnant by the guy February 6.

[Kirito29]

Yes the tech said I had the baby by feb.10 which makes my due date Nov.17 makes me confuse coz I had a menstration on feb 12 or 13 but it only lasted for 3 days and not the usual flow , how could u say its not the guy on feb.6 ?