Paternity. Help

[Kellybrian98]

Hi there,
I know it sounds silly but I need help so I am 16 weeks pregnant consistent sex with a partner up until 8th Oct and had a slip up on Oct 16th and slept with someone else next day I took a pregnancy test and it was positive. (This must mean I was pregnant already right cos u can’t be pregnant a day later after intercourse) This can in no way or form be the second guys child can it ?
Dates say I conceived 18th sept so it’s first guys right? Please someone respond.

[AnnieBrooke]

If your only time with the wrong guy was one day before getting a positive on a pregnancy test, there is no doubt that you were already pregnant on the day you had the slip-up. Not only would a pregnancy test be unable to pick up a pregnancy that immediately after sex, but an embryo created the day before would not even be putting hCG into your system yet (which is what a pregnancy test measures) because it would not have implanted in your uterus so soon.

[Kellybrian98]

That’s what I thought and it says I conceived on the 3rd October so that means I was already pregnant right? I’m just a panicker lol I know I must sound stupid right now.

[AnnieBrooke]

You said you're 16 weeks pregnant, and that you conceived around September 18. Was the September 18 conception date given to you by a doctor looking at an early ultrasound, or did he or she only tell you the "weeks pregnant" and you decided that meant the conception date was September 18? Because doctors count out the pregnancy time period by  starting with the first day of a woman's last period, not with conception. If a doctor tells someone on January 8 that she is 16 weeks pregnant, if the woman were to ask what that means in terms of a conception date, the doctor would tell her October 2. The GA count (the number of "weeks along" a doctor tells you) is not a count back to the assumed day of conception.

Anyway, whether you conceived on September 18 or October 2, what is crystal clear is that you didn't conceive on October 16. So you have no worries there. The sex with the other guy did not affect your pregnancy and absolutely did not cause it.

[AnnieBrooke]

Sorry, I didn't see your last post when I posted the one just above. Yes, October 3 sounds way more logical given your info than September 18, for a conception date.

Don't panic, lots of ladies find themselves in this position and the wrong thing to do is frighten yourself over nothing. The only thing you might do is talk to a counselor, just a one-time thing, to figure out how you can never have a slip-up again. You're going to be a mommy now, and want to make your partner the happiest and most certain dad in the world. Talk it over with someone and work out how to avoid ever having a slip again, and life will be much happier! :-)

[Kellybrian98]

Yes so either way second guy is not in any shape of form the cause right ?

[AnnieBrooke]

Here's what I said above, maybe you missed it.

... whether you conceived on September 18 or October 2, what is crystal clear is that you didn't conceive on October 16. So you have no worries there. The sex with the other guy did not affect your pregnancy and absolutely did not cause it.