Stressed! Confused! Not sure!

[5kthomas]

In a situation I need help with,

Im 13wks pregnant due March 8th. Lmp May 27th ended on May 31st a Friday. I went out with a guy friend on June 1st guy number 1, we had intercourse for about 5min no ejaculation just stopped mid way through. Never spoke to him again as I knew I messed up and made a bad decision. Around June 7th I went out with my girlfriends met up with old friends and had sex and started dating guy #2. Had sex about 5/6 times no protection and no in fact he ejaculated in me on the 14th.  Due for my period on June 26th my periods are irregular felt pregnant, early response confirmed on 21st I was. I assumed by my lmp I was due on March 2nd. I went for a dating on 7/15 which by my lmp I should have been 7wks but was in fact only 6wks. Tech and nurse said I concieved 15/18 th. Second dating confirmed on 7/30 that I was 8weeks new due date March 8th not 2nd. My question is when did I concieve and by who. scared feel like a ***** n so mad. never did this before. please help

[AnnieBrooke]

The doc is exactly right that pre-ejaculate does not contain sperm as it leaves the Cowper's Gland, it gains any sperm it might attain on the passage through the urethra.  The only way sperm would be in the urethra is if Mister Mistake had ejaculated within a few hours of the erection he got in order to have penetration with you.  Unfortunately, you can't exactly say "Whew, Cowper's Gland secretions are sterile" and write off the guy for that reason.  This is because if a woman is available right now for a sexual event, most guys won't ruin their chances by mentioning that they just had an orgasm. They are equal-opportunity opportunists when it looks like sex is in the offing.  The fact he was willing just to stop, is actually not the most comforting piece of info; he might have just had some other sex and so didn't need to orgasm as urgently.  Unfortunately, you can't know, at this point.  It's said that passing urine through the urethra cleans out any residual sperm, but if I were counting on that as a method of birth control, I'd make sure the guy peed ten times.  Long and short of it, even if he didn't ejaculate, and even if it was mostly just Cowper's Gland fluid, there is a (slim) chance that his sperm could cause a pregnancy, but only IF the date of the sex coincided with you ovulating, or preceded it by not a lot more than five days.

The reason the March 2 due date conception calculator gave a probable date of the 9th but said your possible range of conception begins on the 5th is because of the long life of sperm in the woman's reproductive tract.  

When I read your story above the first time, I saw that you were concerned about March 2 vs. March 8, but didn't see that you had been told by more than one medical person that conception happened somewhere around the 15th.  I would definitely take the opinion of two ultrasound techs who are looking right at your baby on the screen, over someone on the Internet counting out weeks on calendars and conception calculators.  If guy #2 ejaculated inside you on the 14th, and they said conception was somewhere between the 15th and the 18th, well, frankly, guy #1's sperm would be long dead by that time.  Don't know why you are even worried.

Listen to your doctor and your techs.  All evidence points to the event on the 14th.

[5kthomas]

also this may sound stupid if  I ovulate on 9th how could I concieve on 5th? just curious

[5kthomas]

#1 never ejaculated,nor orgasmed. we just stopped, I asked dr what is probability and she said very slim to none being that there is only sperm in pre *** if he even did only if he ejaculated earlier and never urinated to clear out urethra. she said pre *** is produced by the cowpers gland and that the gland does not produce or secret sprem. only if he orgasmed earlier in the day or prior and no urination occured could it even be possible which she said dont count on it especially since conception occured approx around 14th. or 15th and no way they survived past 72hrs. just hate this sorry

[5kthomas]

I had 2 transvaginals one at 6wks on 7/15 and one on 7/30 which coincided with 6wks on 7/15 . I was 8wks on 7/30. I asked both techs during trans vag when I concieved by measurments and age and they both said betwern 15th and 18th. they said if I concieved on 1st through 6th the baby would be measuring larger and I would be a week or so further along . also #1 never eja

[AnnieBrooke]

Here would be your conception window for a due date of March 2:

     Probable date of ovulation:  June 9
     Possible dates of conception:  June 5 to 13

and here would be your conception window for a due date of March 8:

     Probable date of ovulation:  June 15, 2013
     Possible dates of conception:  June 11 to 19

Usually, the first ultrasound is more accurate for dating the pregnancy; since yours was in your sixth week it would seem that way.  As you can see, it suggests your boyfriend but does not entirely rule out the guy on the 1st, since sperm can certainly live 4 days in your reproductive tract.  I'd go along assuming the baby is your boyfriend's, but would get a DNA test when the baby is born.  Just explain to him that you had sex with someone else a week before you and he met, and that you didn't ever see the guy again because you realized it was a mistake.  It's not like you cheated on him, he should understand.

[TiffB831]

So pretty much, you're not sure by which guy you conceived with?  I believe that's the question.  I'm not really sure how to answer this, but I will try... I know that sometimes there's what called "premature ejaculation".  So although guy #1 didn't "finish", that's always a possibility.  I would take deep breaths and go by when the US techs said you conceived.  Think about what was going on around that time. You should come up with something.  Don't stress though, stress isn't good and you're in the beginning of your pregnancy.  Hope this helps...

[5kthomas]

yes, guy #2 was the only one after and since to this day.I took about 7 tests from 18th to 21st. 5 came out straight negative, 1 faint literally had to hold to light to see a faint faint line on 20th. 21st I bought early detection and it came right up positive. I assumed if I concieved on 6/1 to 6/4 or so the 18th 19th and 20th would of def been positive by then but when tech said I concieved on 15th to 18th I said how can a positive come up on 21st?  She said I must of ovulated late and sperm from intercourse on the 14th stuck around swimming and fertilized on those dates. I just feel horrible and trashy .  I just dont want to tell #2 to be embarrassed at delivery if its not. I want to be 100%

[melissa724]

June 1st is too soon to conceive. If guy #2 is the only other guy I would say its definitely him. And most likely conceived around the 14th. Going by your LMP is just an estimate. That's why many doctors like to do a dating scan for accuracy. You've had two scans now that confirmed the same date. Congratulations!