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ALL ALONE... ANY HELP
ALL ALONE... ANY HELP
I lost My Mom 2/15/15.
All Alone Since then.
No help.
No one to talk too.
FEELING BAD.
I lost My Mom 2/15/15.
All Alone Since then.
No help.
No one to talk too.
FEELING BAD.
Sher, anything new to tell us? I hope you are managing with your loss a little bit better as time goes by, but it takes time. I hope you have found a couple people to talk to. If not, talk to us. There's always someone here who wants to help. GG
Sorry, hit send again. Finishing up last sentence. He gave me an organization that helps people with information on how to deal with property and a website, It was small scale and it was local.
I also know that there are alot of times when things feel so overwhelming or you just don't want to even go outside because everything just seems "not right." Try to take a light walk every now and then. Even if you can't feel a connection with what is around you, it is really important to be in contact with the outside world to help develop a sense of perspective and help make sense of things. Even if it doesn't make sense now. It is just like time.
I also know that there are alot of times when things feel so overwhelming or you just don't want to even go outside because everything just seems "not right." Try to take a light walk every now and then. Even if you can't feel a connection with what is around you, it is really important to be in contact with the outside world to help develop a sense of perspective and help make sense of things. Even if it doesn't make sense now. It is just like time.
Sorry. Hit send accidentally. I meant I talked to people who lost people who were kind and knew what it felt like. They told me that they were sorry my Dad died and sorry I was going through what I was going through. All said it took time. Everything gets turned upside down. Crisis happens, and sometimes, people who you thought were great supporters or even strong, suddenly are not there.
People ,who I never expected to care and helped me, \helped me. People who I expected would help me, didn't. Things sometimes shake out like that. If you have absolutely no one, ask for help. Other people I came across gave me good resources to deal with things. One person was the bank manager who I was consulting to close my Dad's account. He lost his Dad too, and he gave me a good suggestion and a contact number for an
People ,who I never expected to care and helped me, \helped me. People who I expected would help me, didn't. Things sometimes shake out like that. If you have absolutely no one, ask for help. Other people I came across gave me good resources to deal with things. One person was the bank manager who I was consulting to close my Dad's account. He lost his Dad too, and he gave me a good suggestion and a contact number for an
I am reallt sorry your mother died in February. My father died a couple of years back. Didn'lt matter whether I was totally alone or with friends and family. It makes you feel like you are all alone in it, because it is so personal. Doesn'lt matter how old you are feeling like that bad. It hurts alot and it is pretty much feeling like the whole world just got blown apart. Doesn't matter if it was expected or unexpected. Especially now, when it is a couple of months after someone you love passed away. It is really raw then.
It feels like you are losing it. Like maybe, you are having a breakdown. I thought I was going crazy again. It felt that bad. I called a hospice and they connected me with a grief counselor. He listened to what I was going through, and he said I was not going crazy, it was intense grief. He invited me to go to a grieving and bereavement support group. It has people who had recent loss and are dealing with grief and life after someone dies. I went to a few of them, and it was helpful, but I found that I needed one to one counseling more. So, he did one to one grief counseling with me. It is a sliding scale service. Which means you pay as you can afford, which is 0 to whatever their upper limit is.
I had a lot of questions. I talked to a lot of people. People who lost people and who were kind and knew what it really felt like just said
It feels like you are losing it. Like maybe, you are having a breakdown. I thought I was going crazy again. It felt that bad. I called a hospice and they connected me with a grief counselor. He listened to what I was going through, and he said I was not going crazy, it was intense grief. He invited me to go to a grieving and bereavement support group. It has people who had recent loss and are dealing with grief and life after someone dies. I went to a few of them, and it was helpful, but I found that I needed one to one counseling more. So, he did one to one grief counseling with me. It is a sliding scale service. Which means you pay as you can afford, which is 0 to whatever their upper limit is.
I had a lot of questions. I talked to a lot of people. People who lost people and who were kind and knew what it really felt like just said
SHER, dear one, losing a parent is a torment, the worst, tears a person down, no place to go for it. You are stuck, sick, sad. Open up the phone book and on the first pages, there will be a phone number with the words, "Crisis Intervention." It's like a 911 call to people who listen to other people who are in trouble with their emotions, tragedy, losing a family member. They can talk to you for hours. You can call back, too. Now, this is immediate help.
Other help is available with psychologists, usually in a group, and they are familiar with people who have lost someone very close to them, and you can pick up and go over there as often as they can arrange it. Also, the County Health Department has a psychiatry division, you can just go over there and usually see someone within an hour or two. Either way, these people know exactly what to say, they can provide the company you need, you can call them sometimes, they can suggest where you can start going in real life to talk to other people eventually.
For example, attending church, joining a club with people of similar interests like hiking or learning to square dance, or just whatever you would like to do you can find some folks who do it too, like artwork, and be with them and talk while you do your creative stuff. In the old days, women got together and sewed quilts, you know, and today there are causes you can join up with where they make bracelets people can wear for their cause, or you can volunteer somewhere like a food bank or the hospital or the animal shelter.
But FIRST call the Crisis Intervention number RIGHT NOW. Just close this on down and pick up the phone book and phone, get comfortable, and ring them up. Instant person to talk with you! We all find ourselves stuck in a terrible situation and yet for whatever reason have no one to talk to, and begin to fall off the floor! That's what Crisis Intervention is about.
Psychologists are the ones who professionally talk to you specifically about this one thing that hurt you so bad that you are miserable and depressed. They can give you some medicine for a little while until you sort of come out of it. THEN you can find a group of people to join with and meet and socialize with, general talking, you know. Always comforting.
If you know your neighbors, walk over there and see how they react to the news about your Mom. And ANY relatives will be willing to talk to you, no matter how far away or how well you know them. If you are attending school, you can talk to the counselor there every day. If you are working, do not worry about getting off, just ask the psych doc to write you a note that you have to come in for treatment (without being specific... you can make something up about blood disease or something else the psych might suggest, but from experience, don't tell ANYONE at work that you're visiting a psych, they don't get it).
Hope this helps a little. Do your best, once you've grieved, cried, felt bad for days on end, to think of some happy or pleasant time with your Mom, unless it upsets you. Just a brief happy memory are the things you should cultivate. That's how I deal with my losses eventually, altho some loses I never have gotten over, but I deal with them just the same by putting them on a shelf, so to speak, and forgetting about it.
Best wishes, let us know if you want to talk some more about solutions, or just talk to us, some will talk to you all the time. GG
Other help is available with psychologists, usually in a group, and they are familiar with people who have lost someone very close to them, and you can pick up and go over there as often as they can arrange it. Also, the County Health Department has a psychiatry division, you can just go over there and usually see someone within an hour or two. Either way, these people know exactly what to say, they can provide the company you need, you can call them sometimes, they can suggest where you can start going in real life to talk to other people eventually.
For example, attending church, joining a club with people of similar interests like hiking or learning to square dance, or just whatever you would like to do you can find some folks who do it too, like artwork, and be with them and talk while you do your creative stuff. In the old days, women got together and sewed quilts, you know, and today there are causes you can join up with where they make bracelets people can wear for their cause, or you can volunteer somewhere like a food bank or the hospital or the animal shelter.
But FIRST call the Crisis Intervention number RIGHT NOW. Just close this on down and pick up the phone book and phone, get comfortable, and ring them up. Instant person to talk with you! We all find ourselves stuck in a terrible situation and yet for whatever reason have no one to talk to, and begin to fall off the floor! That's what Crisis Intervention is about.
Psychologists are the ones who professionally talk to you specifically about this one thing that hurt you so bad that you are miserable and depressed. They can give you some medicine for a little while until you sort of come out of it. THEN you can find a group of people to join with and meet and socialize with, general talking, you know. Always comforting.
If you know your neighbors, walk over there and see how they react to the news about your Mom. And ANY relatives will be willing to talk to you, no matter how far away or how well you know them. If you are attending school, you can talk to the counselor there every day. If you are working, do not worry about getting off, just ask the psych doc to write you a note that you have to come in for treatment (without being specific... you can make something up about blood disease or something else the psych might suggest, but from experience, don't tell ANYONE at work that you're visiting a psych, they don't get it).
Hope this helps a little. Do your best, once you've grieved, cried, felt bad for days on end, to think of some happy or pleasant time with your Mom, unless it upsets you. Just a brief happy memory are the things you should cultivate. That's how I deal with my losses eventually, altho some loses I never have gotten over, but I deal with them just the same by putting them on a shelf, so to speak, and forgetting about it.
Best wishes, let us know if you want to talk some more about solutions, or just talk to us, some will talk to you all the time. GG
I am s very sorry your mother recently passed away. It will take time to grieve. Have you no family? You say you are all alone. Are there any friends you can talk to. I don't like to think you have no one at all. Yes you will feel bad that is understandable. as your Mum ill?
You have friends here
You have friends here
How old are you? Don't you have friends or other family? Grief is normal; only time will dampen it. It's okay and good to feel this loss, as suppressing it will only make the feelings linger. If you truly have nobody to talk to think of talking to a grief counselor or therapist just for someone to talk to, but when you love someone and lose them it just takes time.
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