Hi, great news about your son! I do hope he passes the test and can start putting his life back together. I think it was important that you went on the date, whether you felt that spark or not. You are learning to trust again and this is part of your healing right now. I doubt that 30 minutes is enough time to feel anything, just play it by ear. If you hear from him again fine, if not, fine. You are focusing on yourself right now and need to get back to yourself. Take it one day at a time so that you don't put undue stress on this process, be patient with yourself. Keep that firm stance with your son, this is also moving forward for you. I think you should be proud of the positives happening in your life and focus on those and not the past. I love hearing from you so feel free to write me anytime! Take care and keep going.......
Hi Mammo...Well, my son got a job, which im so thrilled about! BUT, he has to pass the drug test & should get the results any day now, but he smoked pot 3 days prior, so not sure he will pass the test!! ugh! He bought one of those over the counter drug tests & it came back negative, so now it's just to wait & see. Needless to say, really stupid to be smoking pot & searching for a job! Anyway, my date went fine, but not sure I felt any spark. Not really sure if you can feel a "spark" when you only spend about 30 min w/someone...but either way, it's fine w/me. Right now im trying to focus on my health anyway.
Thanks Mammo! I'll let you know how my date goes Tue:)
Yes, there are men on these internet dating sites that just sit and wait for women to come to them and then use them. They are smooth talkers, and good at what they do, so don't beat yourself up anymore. Don't waste another second on the past, you need to start living YOUR life, and finding true happiness. You're doing the right thing with your son, I know it's hard, but this is how they learn. If he has nobody helping him then he has no choice but to find work and become self-supporting. We know he wants to keep his car and stereo, etc....he'll figure it out. I think it's good to help him with his resume, we are older and know better how to do this. There is a light at the end of the tunnel, you've just been really disappointed and feel a little hopeless. But it's time to get busy doing the things you enjoy and have a social life. Please let me know how your date goes, and remember......make sure he's up to YOUR standards.
Have fun and keep me posted!
Thank you for the reply mammo...I agree, the internet is full of scammers like the one that I dealt with. I know he was working out of one of those internet cafe's over in Ghana & Im not the first & certainly wont be the last. Im just having a hard time getting over it & I can't believe he talked me out of so much money & that I fell for it! I met him on match.com & he called me every day & told me how much he cared for me. That his job would soon be done & I would get all my money back..yada yada yada! Anyway, your right, I need to not dwell on it anymore; what's done is done now. I talked w/my son & told him he had to be out of the house by 9am & that he had to have several applications turned in every day. I also just found out he got pulled over the other night because his new stereo system was too loud & come to find out, his auto insurance just expired! ugh!! SO, now he can't drive his car. But maybe this is a good thing; maybe this will be important enough for him to try harder to find a job. I refuse to loan him any money, he's going to have to go out & look for work. I did however tell him that I will help him with a resume'..but i wont pay for his auto insurance, car payment or cell phone bill..he's on his own with that. If he's stupid enough to buy a car alarm & stereo system as soon as he gets out of the military & isn't working, then he's up a creek w/o a paddle! He's just not thinking! My God, if it were me, I would have saved my money when I was in Iraq for an entire year. He spent the entire income he made on junk that he didn't need! and now he's paying for it. He's always been terrible w/money..not sure why as ive always tried to teach him how to handle it. I think he might be Bipolar, which explains the spending spree's..but again, he wont go to counceling, so not much i can do now that he's 23. Got its hard being a parent, especially when there's no father in the picture. Im going to take your advise & try to focus on me & rebuild my life as you say. were only here for a short while, we need to make the best of it. I certainly learned that w/the death of my first husband...im sure he's getting a chuckle out of all of this! I have a date next week! I'll let you know how it goes...surely there must be a light at the end of the tunnel....
ok girlfriend yes u been through hell n bac like alot of women time to get bac on track no need 2 kill yourself with food no get your *** bac in the race god hav u here 4 a reason start redining u later 4 your son he is 23 time 4 momma now keep your head uuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuup