I'm 19 and suffer from a Panic Disorder, Anxiety and mild-moderate Depression. I've had the Anxiety without knowing for years, but the Panic Disorder has only developed over the past year and the Depression around 6 months. The Depression has been developing slowly, it was on and off at first but now it's more all the time, but not yet to the serious stage. I have seen a Psychologist but because the waiting list is over a year i had to resort to my Doctors surgery councillor (I live in the U.K) but i found her very over powering and not really supportive so i stopped seeing her after 3 session's. Now i've been referred to a Psychiatrist, my Doctor is worried about the Depression getting worse. But i know that my Depression will get worse because of my Mother. I do get on with her but she has always had a very short temper and is very judgemental, and her anger has got very bad the last year or so partly down to stress from money problems etc, and it all get's taken out on me. She's worse when she's had a drink, which is every night, both her and my Dad drink beer every night, always have done, so basically you just can't talk to her at night in fear she'll all of a sudden flip over something you've said. She's so vile when she has these outburst's, it's awful, i feel so bullied, and the funny thing is she know's she has a problem but can never admit it or even apologize when it happens, it's like it's all my fault. And with all my metal health problem's not once has she supported me it's like they don't exist, i feel so alone. I just can't take it anymore, my Dad doesn't know the half of it, he doesn't even stick up for me, he's scared of her, he know's it'll make thing's worse. She's never been a Mother you can go to for advice or for a hug when you're feeling down, i wish she was, i don't even think she know's me. I would love to move out, but i don't have enough money to do it, i just wish she'd understand and do something about it. I just want to cry all the time cos i'm so sick of it, she can be normal then she can be like a monster and make me feel an inch small, she undermine's me all the time. When she know's she's in the wrong she can't handle it and call's me every swear word under the sun and say's i'm pathetic and immature and need to get out of her hair, basically make you look like your the one in the wrong.
I mean tonight was ridiclious, i've never known such an over reaction, i was so baffelled. I was annoyed because she ate half the bag of popcorn she knew i was saving for a film, and was so sneaky about it, 3 day's ago she just walked out of the kitchen with it and i was like " Huh? That's for me, it was brought for me? What you doing?" So she put it back and i said when i open it i'll obviously give you some, but no, she couldn't even wait. It was the fact she didn't have the manner's to ask me, knowing i was saving it, if it was her popcorn she'd go ape. So i went upstairs to ask her about it but i wasn't angry with her when approaching her i was annoyed but asked her in a humourish way, laughing. After i said nicely, " Mum i mean it's so rude not to ask, you know i was saving it, you always eat the food i get for me, and never ask, i would let you have some if you'd just ask. " She shouted " JUST GO AWAY, **** OFF! " and i was like " Erm what? what's wrong with what i just said?", " IT'S ONLY ******** POPCORN GROW UP, YOUR SO PATHETIC CHARLOTTE!" I was so confused and asked again " I don't get it, i was only asking you to ask in future, you wouldn't like it if i or Dad did the same thing. " So she goes very angerly " OH FOR **** SAKE, I'LL GO UP THE ******** SHOP AND I'LL BUY YOU SOME THEN SHALL I? IF IT'S BOTHERING YOU THAT ******** MUCH, IT'S POPCORN, GROW UP! JUST ***** OFF AND LEAVE ME ALONE, YOUR PATHETIC, SELFISH, ***** OFF, GO BORE SOMEONE ELSE! " So i went downstairs and cried. I just don't get it. Was i wrong?
I mean what can i do? Tell my Doctor?
She need's some anger management, because it's getting too much now and my mood is just getting more and more depressive.
Someone help?
I'm losing all hope. :(