It IS tough to change the killer-beliefs. I still struggle with many of my own convictions. Five minutes of freedom from our own convictions in the morning becomes ten minutes, becomes 20 minutes, escalating to 40 minutes..... etc. It multiplies. It is an ongoing battle but it is a winning battle. Quick lost weight is quick gained worry.
Try to get into healthy exercising. Muscles weigh, but with gained muscles you also gain confidence ande self esteem. Now well.... We do get addicted to exercise too because of the endorfines but that is something entirely different than being addicted to weightloss. I can only recommend you to try. Ack, the joy of seeing a man standing in disbelief when you show him how strong you really are - there ain't nothing better.
I probably sound halfways nuts but where I started with my recovery from eating disorders was to get educated about fitness and exercise. I was obsessed to begin with but now I'm rather mellow.
The only thing that exercise can't do for you is to fetch the car-keys - but it gives you more power to look. It's nature's own antidepressant.
There is always going to be something in us that isn't satisfied about how we look or appear but it is then that we need to break through and say: "I'm going to be just the way that I am!"
ParamedFlorena
Well I still realize what I realized the other night but last night I found myself telling myself
"I'm so fat 9 pounds isn't going to be enough I don't care about those stupid weight charts. I don't care if it says I can't go any lower than 132 I'll go as low as I want I will keep going until I am skinny and beautiful because 9 pounds can't and won't be enough"
I still feel that way that I'm going to keep going until I'm happy. But I don't feel as fat today though I still qite fat.
It's really hard to keep stickig to what I realized the other night. I'm trying but finding it really hard!
You are doing a great choice. I'd like to congratulate you on finding the answer you have found now. It's going to be your way out.
But, there is something about depression. It needs attention. It seems you have found great relief with the pastor. That is awesome. Perhaps you don't need to go a chemical way with antidepressants (allthough they can help initially).
My experience with antidepressants is that it helped until halfways into counseling. Then I went off even if people around me adviced me not to. When it comes to emotional healing, it is only ourselves we can trust when it comes to the next leap.
Good luck!
ParamedFlorena