Psychological ED with new girlfriend after long celibacy. Advice?

[WhatsGoingOnHere47]

I'm a 45 year old man and have been seeing a woman for about 2 months. We have been sexually active for about a month. Before this relationship, I was celibate for 10 years after an especially bad divorce. I was really just taking time to find myself and find out what I want out of life. During my marriage and during celibacy, I never had a problem getting full erections during masturbation using porn and my imagination; ED never really occurred to me during this time.

The first time this new woman and I were intimate, I immediately had a problem getting an erection. It would get about 1/4 hard, but nothing more. Shortly after this, I noticed that I could no longer get full erections even when I masturbate by myself. I was able to finish by myself, but only about 3/4 erect. I talked to my doctor and got on Cialis 5mg daily. I feel it has helped slightly, but I still can't get fully erect. This new woman and I have had sex and I have had orgasms with her, but I can only get a 1/2 erection and only lying on my back with her on top. I do have periods of a full erection, namely in the morning and occasionally during masturbation, but they are short lived.

For years, I only masturbated in bed on my back under blankets. Maybe this has something to do with it? Sometimes I do feel a little exposed when having sex without the blankets, but I still can't get fully erect under the blankets like I used to during masturbation.

I'm thinking this is obviously psychological ED induced by anxiety and self-consciousness (I am overweight. However, I have lost about 130 lbs and had no problems getting full erections at my heaviest). Does anyone have any advice or maybe anything that has worked for a similar situation?

I recently started the mojo app program, but it's only been a couple days, and I'm not expecting miracles lol. Has anyone had any success with mojo?

Any words of wisdom or encouragement would help. Thank you!

[GuitarRox]

Have you ever considered therapy? If you can explore the underlying anxiety that you have, perhaps that would help. What about treating the anxiety with something like an SSRI? I know that some worry about sexual side effects of ssri's but that is just some and it might be worth a try. If you have things to work through, doing that may help move you past this. And you could find someone that you can talk specifically about the sexual issues with them. And remember, many women like intimacy and to feel desired. So, lots of intimacy and lots of making her feel sexy will go a long way while you work this out.