Please help 13yr old son

[lift4life]

Hi, Everyone I would like to give you a little info about me. I am 40 years old man and have been exercising (weight training) since I was 16.  I am also a divorced father so my legal rights to my children are more difficult to exercise since my ex-wife is the custodial parent.  My concern is for my 13 year old son. Here is the situation: the ex hired a personal trainer for him and this guy is one of those guys who is extreme, however the ex feels that it’s good to push my son to his limits (remember he’s only 13). Here is a little info on what I have found out on the trainer he claims he is certified USAW sports performance coach (being in gyms my whole adult life, I here this guy is a compulsive liar, so he might not even attended this certification). After looking this up to be USAW certified is only a 3 day training. He also claims he is USATF coach, this is a ridiculous online training to be a personal trainer.
Here is what he has my 13yr old son doing powerlifting… deadlifting 250+ lbs. the sled dragging a lot of weight until he vomits.  There are other ridiculous exercises he has him do, however I want to concentrate on my current situation here’s what happened: he had my son deadlift over 250+ lbs and immediately after had him doing jump exercise to a box which is at least 2-3ft of the ground. My son injured his patella tendon, doc says it ripped off the knee and took a piece of bone with it.  Now he needs to have surgery this Monday.
I have tried for many months to explain to the ex this is not right, oh yea she also has him train in ju-jitsu right after weight training.  We have even discussed this with attorneys and the court claims children need to be in activities and sports.
My question is this, is there anything medically that I can claim or prove that this not healthy for my son (not to mention other kids he’s training). From what I know with the years I have exercised and been around others who are trainers is this, he still has not developed his growth plates yet, not to mention pushing that kind of weight can injure interior organs at his age if not done correctly. He is not old enough to make the decision on this kind of exercise regimen, however I know him he doesn’t want to disappoint his mom.
Please any kind of help would be greatly appreciated.

[daniehjjj]

Its perfectly fine for a boy  of his age. If ur concerned for how heard your soon is training maybe you should pay for his trainer yourself pick one you approve of. My brothers all started out at 12 with my dad they started slowly and ate now grown and 1 us a pro bodybuilder. They never got hurt. I don't think working out is bad for him just sounds like head wrong trainer

[haleyleeaann]

Hey I know I'm only a 15 year old girl and you won't wanna listen to me, but I know one thing is, your son needs to tell his mother that this isn't healthy for him. Kids should be running laps and doing sit ups, not lifting and pulling all that. If your son doesn't like doing it, he needs to stand up to his mother and tell her, you know what mom, maybe I should just do pe at school. And the courts shouldn't be saying kids need physical activities. Physical activities for kids our age are, like I said, running and doing simple push ups and sit ups. Pushing him is encouraging him to run another lap, not telling him to keep going after he's thrown up. My parents are divorced, and I know that when you're the child and your parents, who already disagree with each other, are arguing over something you should or shouldn't be doing, you need to tell them both, I appreciate what you're trying to get me to do but i don't think I want to do this anymore. Divorced adults will most likely never come to an agreement, because the other parent has too much pride and won't settle with, "Oh maybe your right." I don't know what you can do in court, maybe the next time you see your son, take him to the doctors and ask the doctor to write a note stating he hurt his knee pretty badly and that he shouldn't be doing any major physical activity like that, then bring that to them. And as much as your son doesn't wanna let his mother down, he has to tell her to slow down and at least give him a break every once in a while.