9 years of infertility, why?

[Annie7860]

I am 34 and my husband 44 we have been trying for a good few years, the NHS let us down with waiting lists and bad advice useless asolutely useless, so now we try abroad. We have had 2 failed IUI's, one failed fresh IVF and now going through a IVF FET on Monday. I feel quite stressed at work and am unsure whether this is causing the infertility. My husband's sperm have motility issues and so we went through ICSI on the IVF's. We were very fortunate to have 9 grade 1 embyo's frozen on day 3, my doctor will thaw all embryos today (Christmas day) so that they are day 5 blastocysts and re freeze the remaining embryos that are not needed for transfer. She advised that they will transfer one or two not more as they are considered as two or four at the blastocyst stage. We are learning as we go along too, so much to take in and learn every day. I am taking tablets to thicken the lining and progesterone supositories from 21st which I will take for 2 weeks after the FET.
Can you maybe advise or predict what the chances are, my cycles are regular my family and my husbands have no history as infertility.
I am so anxious and excited to be a mother and my husband to be a father, we would love any help or suggestions. Does baby aspirin really help with implantation?
To all you trying out there you are in our thoughts
Yours xxxxxxx

[worththewait78]

I can relate.  Although we've been trying for six years and not nine.  But we have a lot of similar issues and are of similar ages.  My doctors also have me on baby aspirin.  My husband is giving me daily injections of progesterone in oil and I'm also using progesterone suppositories at bed time.  

GOOD LUCK to you!!!  


Here's our story:

I am 32 and we have been trying for six years to get pregnant.  Got pregnant once five years ago and miscarried at 6 weeks.  Haven't been able to get pregnant since.  We adopted a baby boy last year (who is the light of our lives!) and decided to try the IVF route to see if we can get pregnant.  To our surprise, we had male and female fertility issues.  

Our retrieval was 12/12 and they retrieved 29 eggs - 27 mature!  And 17 of them were successfully fertilized thanks to ICSI!  I heard these are really good numbers.  

After the retrieval, I actually hyperstimmed and was on bed rest for a week because of it.  They almost postponed our transfer, but we decided to go through with it anyway so that we could give the fresh one a try this cycle.

We transferred one really strong blastocyst on 12/17.  My doctor suggested we only transfer one because I'm young and the blastocyst was so strong - was already hatching out.  

I took a hpt on 12/24 and it was negative.  I was devastated because it was Christmas Eve and I had SO wanted a "Christmas miracle" to share with our family.  I truly (honestly) thought it would be positive!! I cried and cried, but my husband told me to not count too much on it and wait until my bt, which is tomorrow.

I'm a little nervous because my doctor told me that if I got pregnant, the hyperstimulation would get worse (due to rising hcg levels), but it's totally gone away.  

Our BT is tomorrow morning and I'm nervous since our hpt was negative on day 7pt.  But I am still hopeful.  

I just can't imagine going through all of this and NOT getting pregnant!!  Why would IVF not work when the conditions seem so perfect?  I can't comprehend!  It seems like all I've ever known for the past five years are NEGATIVE pregnancy tests and heartache after heartache because of that.  Sometimes I feel like we've spent just as much money on hpt as we did for the IVF!! (I know that's a bit of an exaggeration - but, you know!)

I guess I just came here to find some support and talk with others who have been through this emotional roller coaster.

I am hopeful and prayerful.  

I will let you know what the BT is tomorrow!!

[happynifer]

be careful with baby aspirin and only take it after talking to your doctor.  even low dose aspirin can cause bleeding issues.  if you have a clotting issue that is causing your infertility, it can help with implantation, but for most of us it has no benefit.
i'm afraid there is no way to know if and when fertility treatments will work or not...
i understand how incredibly frustrating the whole process can be after taking 7 years along the journey myself.
but hang in there, it will work eventually :)
i am due today with our first child thanks to IVF with ICSI :)
baby dust to you!

[udbe2]

I'm sorry to hear you are going through so much trouble.  My husband and I have been ttc for 23 years now with very little luck.  8 miscarriages and all of our test have came back good with no explaination of what is going on.  I was told once to try IVF but my RE told me he's not going to waste our time and money since we have been pregnant but not able to carry one.    I've tried baby asprin and all sorts of fertility drugs only to be let down month after month.  I am so far the only one in the family both sides that has fertility problems.  My sister got pregnant when she was on birth control pills.

Wish I could tell you that baby asprin was a miracle drug but I can't.  I wish you all the luck and ssbd to you.  Sorry I can't predict what your chances are to have a sucessful IVF cycle this time.