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Cant stop crying ~ BFN today! How do you decide to IVF again with no real answers?
Do you ever get any good answers after a PFN?
How do you decide to do IVF again when you are not given a reason why three AA embryos did not stick? The disappointment and sense of failure is excruciating. Please let me know your stories. How do you still have a positive outlook? how do you make informed decisions and move forward with IVF again?
How do you decide to do IVF again when you are not given a reason why three AA embryos did not stick? The disappointment and sense of failure is excruciating. Please let me know your stories. How do you still have a positive outlook? how do you make informed decisions and move forward with IVF again?
i have had 2 ivfs and they both failed. it is very frustrating when everything is aparently perfect and we still get a negative result. i was told my eggs were great size, my lining was great and the transferred is good and then i got the bfn and just don't understand. however it gets easier as time goes by. keep in mind you have a bunch of hormones in you and it is ok to feel bad and frustraited. who wants to spend all that money, go trough all those shots for nothing?
the other thing too is to go over the treatment with your RE and evaluate what changes can be made for the next cycle if any are needed.
we dont have to remain childless there are other options but only one can know when to stop treatments and start thinking about other options. we know our bodies and there is a moment where the body says no more.
my prayer is to for god to help me know when to stop and if that door is not going to open then to show me other. sometimes i get more excited about getting a little baby in my hands to raise like my own than 3-4 of daily shots that get my hopes up and then leave heartbroken
take care and know the forum is here for you.
the other thing too is to go over the treatment with your RE and evaluate what changes can be made for the next cycle if any are needed.
we dont have to remain childless there are other options but only one can know when to stop treatments and start thinking about other options. we know our bodies and there is a moment where the body says no more.
my prayer is to for god to help me know when to stop and if that door is not going to open then to show me other. sometimes i get more excited about getting a little baby in my hands to raise like my own than 3-4 of daily shots that get my hopes up and then leave heartbroken
take care and know the forum is here for you.
Is this your first IVF and first pregnancy? I know a BFN hurts real bad in the beginning and with the time it gets better and doesn't hurt you that bad. I so far went through 3 failed cycles, whenever a cycle fails, I feel I wont try again, but, slowly I start feeling positive and hoping positive. You should definitely try again, IVF is a DART board and a miracle, never know when it hits the target, In my case, egg quality is failing all my attempts and hence am looking at donor eggs, so we got to look at all other options and think positive and move ahead, i know it keeps pinching somewhere down within, but, thinking about failed cycle only will mess up our life and mind.
Good luck hon, take care, wish and think positive, stay focused, enjoy the summer, and look forward for next cycle, if needed take a short break, and heal better, dont weep more, in this blog, many women got pregnant after 44 with twins, so your miracle is also your way soon. Take care.
We are always here for you remember that, you can lean on us for your pain.
Good luck hon, take care, wish and think positive, stay focused, enjoy the summer, and look forward for next cycle, if needed take a short break, and heal better, dont weep more, in this blog, many women got pregnant after 44 with twins, so your miracle is also your way soon. Take care.
We are always here for you remember that, you can lean on us for your pain.
It is hard and it does take time to be able to move forward. One thing I feel gets forgotten sometimes is that even when everything is perfect, sometimes things don't work out. It is nothing you've done wrong, it just happens sometimes.
I had two transferred, on day 3, that were very good, and neither of them took. Its hard to stay positive with this because there is no guarantee, and with a normal natural cycle it can take 6 months to a year of trying to have success. Who knows how many times the egg was "perfect" yet doesn't implant for some reason. One thing to keep in mind as well is what day the transfer happened on. Even though they are looking perfect when they put them in on day 3 things can still change, they could stop growing, or have some other issue that didn't weed them out beforehand. There are so many little things that can effect things, it does amaze me that any one gets pregnant. I say that after listening to my RE explain bunch of things about a normal cycle, that is not assisted by iui or ivf.
One thing that I needed was to be okay with the sadness and feeling of loss that I felt over the situation. I am still dealing with some of that issue, now as we approach our second try at ivf, knowing that everything thing can be perfect and it still may not work/take is hard. The only thing I can do is hope and pray that this round will work. It takes a lot of faith to try again when you've had the "perfect" cycle and the only thing that went wrong is a negative pregnancy test.
I had two transferred, on day 3, that were very good, and neither of them took. Its hard to stay positive with this because there is no guarantee, and with a normal natural cycle it can take 6 months to a year of trying to have success. Who knows how many times the egg was "perfect" yet doesn't implant for some reason. One thing to keep in mind as well is what day the transfer happened on. Even though they are looking perfect when they put them in on day 3 things can still change, they could stop growing, or have some other issue that didn't weed them out beforehand. There are so many little things that can effect things, it does amaze me that any one gets pregnant. I say that after listening to my RE explain bunch of things about a normal cycle, that is not assisted by iui or ivf.
One thing that I needed was to be okay with the sadness and feeling of loss that I felt over the situation. I am still dealing with some of that issue, now as we approach our second try at ivf, knowing that everything thing can be perfect and it still may not work/take is hard. The only thing I can do is hope and pray that this round will work. It takes a lot of faith to try again when you've had the "perfect" cycle and the only thing that went wrong is a negative pregnancy test.
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