Calling all TTC'ers,(Successful and UnSuccessful (well so far)), PCOS'ers, Women, Females, Males that know this stuff anyone!

[jusrobin]

So after months...no years... of trying we were successful and needless to say I don't have a baby today! We all know how the story goes...those of us that have been here. I've posted before a few of you may be aware of my story...anyhoo cut to now, it's been 7 months since the (unforunate incident) I call it that because I just can't say M/C again, I can't even form my lips to say it and I definitely am not going to type it, anyway 7 months since then and we're trying again.

My concern is, is that this time we've (DH and I) had open dialogue about it, as to where before it was "baby I want to do whatever you want to do" which wasn't a problem, because initially he was the one that put the "whole baby thing" out there and I was completely thrown off guard but in a good way. We already have a 10 year old which we had her when we were 17 and we just got married after we both finished school, and now this time we were trying to do it right. Anyway after he brought it up, I took it and ran and so we were off on our journey of ttc. Over the last 3 year's we've faced so many obstacles from hormonal arguing to "that thing that I can't say" (several times) to an actual 2 week seperation because ttc had just completely taken over our lives, and then it happend what we thought was our successful one, but as we know it ended in "that thing I can't say". A year ago I was finally diagnosed with PCOS and have been on Metformin which helped us the last time but we know how that ended. Cut to now...I've been taking my meds regularly and we are back to that "Ok it's time to try again mode"!

As I said earlier this time we've had open dialogue about it and I've found out through the conversation(s) that my DH has had just as hard of a time as I had, He was/is really hurt and scared by our unsuccessful attempts and he is also scared of what it has done to us, and unfortunately I know that along with the clomiphene comes the crazy mood swings and the irrational behavior on my part (of course) but I also know that this is how it is...no other options available...right now. He said he would be patient and understanding this time and I of course told him that I would do the same and which ever way this thing works out we would be there with each other and deal with it together, and we would not give up until there was a definite NO from the RE that ok it's not going to happen.

Also my DH is gunho about this time, but I since that he's a little skeptical and when I asked if he was sure or if he wanted to wait for a while longer he said NO he was ready now and I believe that, but I still can't shake the feeling that the poor thing is nervous, How do I help with that?

So all of that to say this, what do we do, how do we deal with the stress of this, we've been here before and I know that stress definitely does not help the situation at all, but if there is anyone out there that understand what I'm saying please help!  As always any help is good help!

[jusrobin]

Thank you so much, and hear ya sister...I hate those words too, but of course there are so many words that aren't allowed since 3 years ago, I'm running out of things to say! LOL, Thanks again for the honesty and the hope. I sincerely appreciate it! Yes it is Definitely Rough! WHEW but here we go again! Thanks Deary!

[Helen72]

TTC is very stressful for everyone!  It puts a lot of stress on a relationship even without infertility drugs and treatments.  The way I see it, there is no way around it.  When we were trying I just hated people who said stuff like "relax and it will happen" or "relax since stress is not good when you ttc".  I just wanted to slap people who say stuff like that around.  Stress does not cause infertility!!!

I am sorry you went through such hell.  I hope you and dh can get through this together.