D&C or miscarrage and trying again

[Anya1984]

Hello ladies.....for those who know me, I was 6 weeks pregnant..went to u/c today and doc didn't see embryo in gestational sac which means that it stopped developing....on Tuesday Im going for another u/c to confirm...after that I either going to have a natural m/c (btw, does anyone know how to make it happen?) or going under D&C (how is the procedure done)?

My question is, how soon can we start trying for a new cycle after miscarrage?????

Im soooo depressed right now and would like some input.......

[alikat1205]

I do understand that.  I had two natural m/c and two d/c for non m/c reasons.  And it is alot to think about.  But everyone's getting that view when you have a baby, so you're getting over that modesty now!  Really, I spent alot of time horrified over the visual, don't do it to yourself.  It's medical, they're there to take care of you.  This is one step towards your goal try to think of it that way (not easy I know).  Now you can heal, and grieve this baby, and now you will have an angel to watch over you.  That is how I think about it.  I even bought a little baby angel statue, it is a newborn baby angel sleeping with its wings tucked around it, and I wrote the date of my miscarriages on the bottom and it is a reminder of the angel babies I have watching over me.  

[Anya1984]

I know..but I can't help how I feel..its because I hate having anything done down there....and picturing this procedure makes me sick and humiliated..
sorry I ve been very emotional lately....:(

[alikat1205]

Im so sorry.  There is nothing to be humiliated about.  You didnt do anything wrong.  

[Anya1984]

Oh, I see...
Yeah, HSG was horrible experience and I just hope that d&c is a lil better.....I just feel humiliated...

[maybebaby29]

Well for HSG they usually don't give you anything. They rely on you to take your ibuprofin before hand. I asked for the valium because when I told my doc "you know, I"ll probably kick you out of nervousness." he goes "ok one valium coming up". It only took the edge off my nerves. It wasn't anesthesia or pain meds.

[Anya1984]

Yes, it is very painful to know that my baby stopped growing and end of story......
Also Im very freaked out about the whole procedure thing.....its just so unnatural...
anyway, I will have it today so wish me luck :(