Donor Egg

[babydust2009]

I was wondering if their was anybody out there that has experienced Donor Egg before.. Mary...:)

[globetrot]

Here is what I posted before.  Sorry it is so long!  I am starting my second cycle- my first was cancelled- donor did not respond to meds and I had liquid in my lining.  Not sure what info you are looking for but I hope this helps!  SSBD to you!



See what clinics are in your area- or a distance you would be willing to travel.  You can check their success rates on the CDC website:  www.cdc.gov/ART/index.htm  but this info was a bit old.

You can call and do a phone interview to see if the dr is certified, how much of the biz is dedicated to donors, etc. I guess it all depends on how chatty the receptionist is!!!!

I was given a pelvic right from the start- before I even interviewed the RE.  I did not like that.  I guess they were evaluating me as much I was them! The paperwork I had to fill in was pretty extensive.

Because of my age- donor was are course of action so we did not really discuss any other options.  

The first day we also met with the financial dept.  Find out if they take your insurance- if not do they have a self-pay discount of any sort.  Is there any insurance they reccommend. You should be know up front what the break downs are. Our meds were not included in our quote.  (Find out how much of an effort they go to to stay up to date on the cheapest meds.)

Find out how much information you get about the donor and how many they have available.  Find out how much background info and family history you get about the donor.  Make sure they have the legal contracts in place, ask to see exactly what the donor signs.  Find out what tests they do on her before she is accepted as a donor and after she is selected by a family.  

Find out if you will have one nurse assigned to you- that is so helpful!      

We did not get to donor selection for a while.  When you do, you and your dh need to decide what is important to you in a donor.  Is it that she looks like you?  Has a good education? etc.  Knowing this helps- but then there are other things that help you decide- her health history was a big one for us.  Your instinct will guide you.  Also the nurse might be helpful.  I will tell you from experience- younger is better!  The donor that did not respond to meds was almost 30.  Don't know if that had anything to do with it but since I have heard younger is better.  She was actually our 2nd choice- but that is another story!

Find out what happens if they cycle is canceled!!!!!  ;0)

There is a great book about infertility resources called "The Baby Solution"  that has info about questions to ask, the tests, considerstions when choosing your donor etc.

  Hope this helps.  If I did not answer what you were looking for- let me know!

[Kricket212]

Annie..........I totally get what y ou are saying. I agree.
I am just so anxious...........  

[AnnieBrooke]

For one thing, remember that you as the person who is pregnant does have an effect on how the baby will look.  There is some disagreement as to whether a lot of DNA transfers from pregnant woman to baby, but apparently some does, and also there is more general agreement that the pregnant mom's genes help to turn on or turn off the baby's genes.  I've found that when looking at the pix from the donor agency, one or two would just stand out to me as the one.  There's a look in the eye, you look at the photo and say "I can relate to her!"  

[Kricket212]

I have started the paperwrk on DE & also started viewing the donors within my program. I have a few in mind, although they may not be available when I cycle. In any event, I can't seem to get the pics out of my mind.  It's starting to stress me out because I don't want to go thru life thinking about this.
How does someone handle this?