when to tell people you are pregnant??

[FirstCub4Bear]

I got BFPs on three pregnancy tests, starting Monday night. My OBGYN says Im about 4 weeks along. She won't see me until Nov. 20 -- said the positive HPT is enough and I dont need an immediate blood test.
Anyway, this is my first child. I know miscarriages happen mostly in the first 12 weeks, so I'm afraid to tell people. Ive told DH (obviously), my best friend, and my mom, but no one else. I told my DH to not tell anyone yet. But, now I'm wondering is it OK to tell his parents and a few people? How long do people wait before telling people close to them?

Thanks!  Heather

[bny807]

yup, i agree its a personal choice.. since our close friends and my mom knows that we are going thru fertility stuff then we told them both times. however both times its ended in mc.. i'm glad that my work people didn't know though, because i would hate to explain it over and over again that i'm no longer preg... i am just horrible at keeping secrets from my close friends, so that doesn't help! hehe.. but the support is good... YEEA on your BFP!!!!! : )   congrats!!!

[Helen72]

I had complications and did not tell my family till 14 weeks.  It depends on how your pregnancy is progressing and on your history.

Congrats on your BFP!!!

[ZevasMom]

We were in the same boat as Kash12 - we waited until the end of the 12th week to tell everyone - we had also suffered a m/c a few years prior...

[paranoidpatty]

I might tell close friends and maybe family early on or at least after the first ultrasound.  But like the others say, you'll have to keep in mind that if anything happens (God forbid) those would be the ones you'd have to explain everything to.  Most people wait until 12 weeks but like the others said again, that's up to you.  Having their emotional support either way is always helpful also.

Good luck and SSBD!

Trish

[Kash12]

We waited until 12 weeks to tell everyone..including parents as we had suffered a miscarriage before and it was really hard talking about it to everyone we had told. Its a personal choice but I would hold on until 12 weeks. :) Good luck deciding.

[bree08]

I think it's a personal choice also. I love sharing my joy with others so I know the day I get a BFP everyone in my life will know. Congrats again on the BFP : )

[SueGre]

Hi Heather,

I think it's really a personal choice. Some people prefer to wait until after the first trimester to tell people and others want to share their news right away. I'm a very open person and told everyone, including total strangers, within days of finding out. My mom said if something should happen I will have to explain over and over to so many people. I told her that would just give me more people to support me. My dh wanted to wait, but I didn't and so he let me tell anyone I wanted. Unfortunately, we lost our baby at 20 weeks, and fortunately the support was wonderful. By the way, I'm really excited for you! Too bad your OB won't do a beta. It would be nice to see your numbers doubling. Can you tell him/her you want to do betas? Can they refuse you if you say you want them? I guess it's worth the try if you want to. Anyway, congrats again!!

~Sue