Didn't tell doc about prior abortion!

[LisaJon]

I feel terrible!  I'm 42 and going through fertility testing for only the past month. I filled out the forms in front of my partner and never told him about a medical condition that I had 15 years ago.  I have been in denial as I am embarassed and ashamed.  Today I went for a HSG test and the doc said that my tubes are normal/open and that my uterine cavity is normal.  But, I have "mild bilateral synechia in both cornua".  I've researched this and it really means that there's evidence of my prior medical condition.  I will be mortified if my doctor references this during my appointment (with my partner in the room) next week.  Should I take my doc aside and confess my lie?  Any other suggestions?  Oh, please don't preach to me that I should have an open relationship with my partner.  We do.  But, this is one part of my past that only I know and I will not share with anyone.

[pyar]

Its your past and therefore your choice to keep it private.No one has the right to judge or be rude when you come on here genuinely wanting support and advise.I say go with what makes you comfortable ttc is stressful enough.

[tina1111]

An abortion and a D&C performed when a fetus has stopped growing are the same procedure. If you want to tell a white lie, you can say you were pg and the baby stopped growing so you had a D&C. Otherwise, I agree, tell your dr ahead of time. Everyone is entitled to privacy.

[Kricket212]

If you don't want him to know........I would advise your dr ahead of tme.

[SueGre]

That was incredibly rude.

Do what makes you feel the most comfortable and the least stressful. It will all be okay.  

[kris71]

Either just fess up to your partner or go to the appt alone.

[bevfly]

Hi hun if i was you i would tell your partner,he will probably understand and be very supportive.We all have pasts hun.Keeping something from him will make you feel worse in the long run.I am not telling you what to do thats just what i would do if i were in your circumstance.I had one too many years ago and told my fiance as we both tell each other everything.You do what you feels right and if you need to talk about anything feel free hun ok.bev xxx