Any D&C experience ladies??

[Mariana101]

I refused to scheduled a D&C unless I start bleeding on my own. Is there any complications if I wait and wait. Last Friday I saw my seven week old baby with no hearbeat and the doctor recommended a D&C but I want to have another ultrasound in a week and see what happens. If I don't bleed before next week, I think I will still wait to scheduled the D&C because I feel like my body SHOULD start the miscarriage process and not me. What do people think. You can be honest :)

[krichar]

First of all I would like to say how sorry I am for your loss. I found out at my NT scan that my baby's heart had stopped just days earlier...I was 12 weeks. I'm sorry if my response is too graphic or upsetting but it was just my thoughts...no offense to any one at all. I couldn't bear to think of my baby being mulched up and sucked out...but i also couldn't wait knowing he was dead inside me. I chose to insert a medication i believe it was called mesipropal (sp?) which induced labor that night and i delivered him at home. After he was out i started to hemmorage and had to have an emergency d&c anyway...but he was safe. I firmly believe it is a personal choice, and you should do whatever you feel you have to. Many people wait, many have d&c's and many do what i did. At the end of the day it is what is right for you and your healing. You will make the right desicion for you!

[usuk]

It is a miracle honey. If it is not going to be a healthy baby, you will get another miracle. I know it ***** but you guys did it on your own. If by Friday things do not turnaround, just take the steps to get your body back in the game safely. XOXOXO

[Mariana101]

You all convinced me. I will do a D&C after Friday's ultrasound. I'm just waiting a week in case a miracle happens, which I doubt but if I have pain, bleeding etc, I'm calling the doctor right away. This is just too hard. Specially after having 4 failed IVF and getting pregnant naturally with this baby.
Thanks for all your support

Mariana

[nshapland]

I thought about waiting after suffering a missed miscarriage at 8 wks. My dr strongly recommended against it. I didn't trust him (all drs want to operate, right?) so I called my friend's father who is an ob-gyn and my own ob-gyn and they both said my dr was right.  I went ahead and did the d&c and I'm glad I did. It went very smoothly and I didn't have the trauma of a miscarriage (other than emotional, of course). If it were to happen again, I would definitely opt for the d&c.
For me, getting it over with as soon as possible was best, so I could start the healing process. Everyone is different though, and you have to do what you think is right for you.
Good luck!

[tones99]

it all depends on how you feel in your heart .. the doc is probably advising d & c to make it easier for you to deal with, but waiting is totally normal .. it's completely up to you .. if you are not bleeding yet there is no danger waiting .. the only danger comes if you bleed incompletely .. then you may end up having a d & c anyway, but that's only if there is still tissue etc left after you've been bleeding for a while.

I opted for a d & c on the day we found out that our baby's heart had stopped, but that was more because it was nearly 12 weeks old and I thought I wouldn't be able to cope with passing such a developed baby at home .. the midwife and doc said it was absolutely fine and safe to wait and try naturally, I ended up with an infection from the d & c and even though they said that wasn't normal, I know a lot of women who ended up the same way .. the other thing to consider is that after a d & c, because the lining of the uterus is really diminished, it takes longer to build up again so you are advised to wait 2-3 cycles before ttc again, whereas for a natural mc your lining builds a lot faster

follow your heart but don't worry that you will do harm waiting .. my cousin found out there was no hb with her bub recently at 7 weeks as well and waited 18 days before she started bleeding .. but managed a complete mc with no complications .. good luck hon!

[foreverpoppy9]

from strictly a medical person's opinion I would go with what your doctor says.  if they can't find a heartbeat then most likely there isn't one....sorry :( that's devastating.  i just fear that if you wait, what it can do to your body and what it might do in the long run if it would affect you having an even harder time getting pregnant again.  
I have seen so many ladies go through a D&C since I am an operating room nurse and its not easy but I'd really trust in your doctors.  best wishes.